[AFPhys]

I greatly hate to say this: Much in this article is very accurate, and worth serious consideration.

[nesnah]

This piece is spot-on. Described my world to perfection (with a few deviations - I don’t live in Mom’s basement). In addition, my ex had all the fault (joined the rodeo if you know what I mean). Now, the system extorts money from me and she is free to alienate my children at her whim.

It is a very broken system.

[Oldexpat]

We have a relative going threw divorce..and there certainly is a pattern. False domestic violence accusation, arrest, restraining order, etc.
It is enough to scare a young man..and should. So you need to avoid some women at all costs. A woman who has come from a welfare history family is more likely to be a problem. One who’s mother has had a similar history.
They learn what they observe as children.
Many mail order brides also get briefed on their new “rights”.
If you have money..protect it with a premarital agreement.
As a parent you can help. Don’t reward a stupid marriage.
Buy them a house...keep the title in your name.

[ghostrider]

I greatly hate to say this: Much in this article is very accurate, and worth serious consideration.

Unfortunately Doc, the problem may be much bigger than the author describes. I know quite a few men and women in their early 20's, who are simply scared of getting married for fear that their lives will be ruined by divorce. It is not just the divorce laws, it is also related the combative, trial & error culture that sets men in competition with women in a temporary marriage or live in situation where a lasting commitment plays second to immediate self gratification.

[Keith Brown]

It’s very true, and what’s more is that it’s worse than this guy is letting on.

I have seen it all, the traditional church wife, the high school sweet heart, the really cool gal,...all of them go bonkers and destroy not only a guy, but the kids too!

[meyer]

I greatly hate to say this: Much in this article is very accurate, and worth serious consideration.

Agreed, and I've seen it happen too many times.

[Prole]

Some people get married for all the wrong reasons. Some get married on the rebound, while others get married as an act of spite or rebellion against other folks. Some get married for the other person’s cash, and still others like getting married so that they can dominate, manipulate and control another human being like some sort of puppet.

The point is that a person should truly love and cherish the one he or she will marry, and the person should be the best friend as well the lover. Questions should be asked; “do I accept this person the way they are,” and “does this person behave like someone ready for marriage?”

Two people getting married should be open, honest and fair with each other, and they should date for at least a couple of years to get to know each other.

There should be no signs of tyranny or oppression, nor should there be any demeaning treatment.

Pre-marriage counseling is also a must, as it gives a third, unbiased person an honest assessment of whether or not a marriage will work out.