I wouldn’t give up my family for anything. If my wife divorced me tommorrow I would get joint custody since that is the norm as I understand it in Florida, and she could take as much money as the law would give her, and I wouldn’t for a moment even consider wanting my child not to exist.
In other words, living a half life, alone, without family, is not the solution to the risk of divorce. My solution . . . look for a believing Christian wife. Stats say it doesn’t much matter, but that is why I say “believing,” not a woman just going through the motions.
I understand where you are coming from and I was you many years ago. If you have to go through it, and I pray that you never do, you’re eyes will be forced open by a system that you obviously (and I say that respectfully) have little understanding of.
Yeah. That worked. I married a nice Catholic girl. Smart, too. Got the vast majority of time with my kids and half of everything I owned and earn.
I’m with you. My kids are almost 16 now (boy/girl twins) and we have been married going on 25 years. I think many marriages are not based upon true commitment, but because “it was time” to get married. My own sister’s first marriage failed because it seemed to her that she should either marry the guy she was dating at the time or break up with him. She should have chosen the latter.
On the occaisions that I am asked my opinion about marriage, my advice is: Don’t marry someone because you think you could spend the rest of your life with him/her. Marry someone you could not spend the rest of your life WITHOUT.
Marriage ought to be like combining salt and water— hard to separate back into the original parts. Many marriages today are like salt and rocks— never really combined into one substance and, while it may be difficult and messy, separable.
You sound like me 15 years ago. However, after being divorced “without cause” ten years ago after a 20 year marriage with three daughters and 18 years of church membership (and heavy involvement), I learned that really only God knows who is “believing”.
I also learned to apply the “hate what is evil” to my perspective on the US government. Family court is one of the most evil institutions ever devised by man.
We are sleepers.