You sound like me 15 years ago. However, after being divorced “without cause” ten years ago after a 20 year marriage with three daughters and 18 years of church membership (and heavy involvement), I learned that really only God knows who is “believing”.
I also learned to apply the “hate what is evil” to my perspective on the US government. Family court is one of the most evil institutions ever devised by man.
We are sleepers.
I don’t understand what you mean by “we are sleepers.” I do see a lot of people that divorce soon after the kids are grown. Was it menopause? Lots of women go bananas then.