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“She tried to do something good, and it didn’t work out.
Most people wouldn’t even have tried.”

Maybe. Looks to me that she just tried to get a pet.
When you have a child, you get what you get. If the child is autistic, or has other issues, you love and raise the child. Adoption should be no different. This woman was immature, and not ready to commit. Gee, think that’s why she’s a single mom?

She tried to do something good, and it didn't work out.

Most people wouldn't even have tried.

If you didn't read the whole story, you might want to as I thought the same thing until I read the entire article.

Basically, she thought she was getting a "ready to love" girl, when the little girl actually turned out to be a real human with real problems, she kicked her to the street.

"The penny dropped, and she realised her mother wasn't coming to get her," says Julie. "She had no other option but me. At that point she actually started making more effort, but it was too late by then. "It's hard to explain, but deep inside me I'd given up and I couldn't go back. I began to be very anxious about what to do." A year after Zahina had come to live with her, Julie was confronted with the most agonising decision of her life - should she go ahead with the adoption? She decided she did not want to but, desperately worried about the impact this would have on Zahina, avoided doing anything about it. Ironically, it was Zahina herself who forced her hand. The little girl must have sensed that Julie was withdrawing from her and was having nightmares about falling down a hole. She was calling out to Julie but she wasn't there. "I realised we couldn't go on like this, with all of us so anxious," says Julie. "I felt it might be damaging for Zahina." She made up her mind - she would give Zahina back. "It was very sad and distressing, of course, but I could not ignore the fact that things weren't right." And so this little girl, shunted from one place to another, was to be rejected once more. "When I did tell Zahina she was incredibly upset, she just sobbed and sobbed. It was hard to take. She said she'd tried so hard, and got nothing back, and I told her I knew what she meant because that was exactly how I had felt. "By that I don't mean I was blaming her. I was the adult in the situation and I had to take full responsibility."