Most people wouldn't even have tried.
If you didn't read the whole story, you might want to as I thought the same thing until I read the entire article.
Basically, she thought she was getting a "ready to love" girl, when the little girl actually turned out to be a real human with real problems, she kicked her to the street.
"The penny dropped, and she realised her mother wasn't coming to get her," says Julie. "She had no other option but me. At that point she actually started making more effort, but it was too late by then. "It's hard to explain, but deep inside me I'd given up and I couldn't go back. I began to be very anxious about what to do." A year after Zahina had come to live with her, Julie was confronted with the most agonising decision of her life - should she go ahead with the adoption? She decided she did not want to but, desperately worried about the impact this would have on Zahina, avoided doing anything about it. Ironically, it was Zahina herself who forced her hand. The little girl must have sensed that Julie was withdrawing from her and was having nightmares about falling down a hole. She was calling out to Julie but she wasn't there. "I realised we couldn't go on like this, with all of us so anxious," says Julie. "I felt it might be damaging for Zahina." She made up her mind - she would give Zahina back. "It was very sad and distressing, of course, but I could not ignore the fact that things weren't right." And so this little girl, shunted from one place to another, was to be rejected once more. "When I did tell Zahina she was incredibly upset, she just sobbed and sobbed. It was hard to take. She said she'd tried so hard, and got nothing back, and I told her I knew what she meant because that was exactly how I had felt. "By that I don't mean I was blaming her. I was the adult in the situation and I had to take full responsibility."
it’s sick and cruel, any way you look at it. As a single mother who adopted four siblings, I believe people who do this (and it happens every single day in the adoption community) are cruel and heartless, to make a PROMISE of unconditional, parental love to another human being, and not be PREPARED and EQUIPPED to follow through.
Sickening...and selfish...to the core..
Anyone who adopts needs to read Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier.