Posted on 11/08/2007 8:41:58 AM PST by Lorianne
So she’s like a puppy ... take it back????
EXACTLY!
This stupid woman failed miserably and still doesn’t get it. My daughter has a friend ... parents are divorced ... mother is detached ... but does love the little girl - life is tough on her Mom - works full time - daughter is in PRE care and AFTER care and dropped all over when she has days off from school. When she comes here, she knows we have boundaries and she is always WELCOME to visit when she goes byour rules. I also let her know that her Mom really loves her. The "Dad" is like a lightening bug in her life - misses birthdays and holidays and then will suddenly show up. My husband has also turned her around in showing that all males are NOT irresponsible and unloving. It takes time. It takes patience. She sees our HOME as her home. It was also an education for our daughter to see how fortunate she is.
what do you mean? we are raising our kids the way we see fit... we even homeschool them and take them to Freeper events... and take them to church, too! and we adopted them from the state of California... we even homeschooled our oldest before he was legally adopted (we were considred his foster parents--even though we were not licensed foster parents)... our social worker said he had other children who part of his case load that were being homeschooled...
once the judge signed our adoption papers, the state was out of our home... no visits, etc... although they do offer things such as medical until the child is 18...
What a self centered B88888.......no wonder the young girl wanted out....there was NO MAN AROUND!
I'm surprised no one picked up on this yet. Oxfam ("A group of non-governmental organizations from three continents working worldwide to fight poverty and injustice") sent up a big red flag for me. She's definitely a big lefty.
YOU did not set about to have children WITHOUT a husband? Right? There’s a difference, and this “woman” proves it. Glory to God and you in what you are doing!
Have no idea how old you are, but might I suggest that you'll love him in later life. That certainly applies in my case. I am now seventy-one and my remaining brother (and closest to me) just turned eighty-one. He was a demon when we were younger and now, I would walk through burning coals for him and he for me.
It depends on how much you stray from what the state allows. It also depends on where in the country you live.
And, most importantly, it depends on the situation. It is not always going to end in the tragedy this article describes, but if you have a really encouragable child, adapted or not, the means to rear the child could start pushing the envelope of what the state allows.
And the odds of just such a situation increase dramatically when adapting a non-infant.
And it is all about risk for me. It is why some people choose not to ride a motorcycle.
The risk is just too high - especially when I am putting my own childrens formative years in jeopardy.
Well, she was supposed to be going to stay with her uncle and his er... “partner.” I imagine the part about Mom letting her come home if it didn’t work out wasn’t stressed.
My bro would be like, "uh, you go first" :-)
In a perfect world, a child would be adopted into a loving two parent home. The government thinks they can redesign the family. This story is evidence of the failure of a single parent adoption. Perhaps, a father in the home would’ve made a difference?
First of all I want to thank you for saving your children from a life in foster care and giving them a place they can call home....I saw a very touching film called “A Place Called Home” that was shown @ The Heartland Film Festival. It is a documentary about an Indianapolis family that adopts a family of children that survived a horrible abuse situation and how this family overcame tremendous obstacles to provide a loving home for their children.
just have the tissues ready....
I think you’ve nailed it.
thanks, Kimmers, but my whole life EVERY DAY involves “tissue” moments, with how grateful and happy my own children are with the life God has given them with me. It really is possible to have kids who have been horribly abused and neglected to give and receive love from others, regardless of the “horror stories” you hear about. The key, i think, is in parents (like me) who are PREPARED for the needs of these special children, and who are willing to put ALL of our own issues and needs and desires aside, so the kids can have the BEST CHANCE at recover and healing and wholeness.
My children are amazing — inspiring — and are each a miracle story on their own.
Sorry to hear that.
Watch out, Laura, the b**ch might dump you next.
Knock it off, there are some situations that can not be worked out by love. This Girl had been through hell and while the mother should have stuck with it *eagerly* a bit longer than 'weeks' before becoming discouraged there is no guarantee this child would have been happy anywhere.
You should have prefaced your reply to me with tissue alert....thank you for listening to God when he speaks to you.
The most touching part of the film is when they finally got the adoptions legalized and the family also adopted the deceased eldest child that died trying to protect his siblings from the children’s sperm donor...crying now....
It would depend on the father ... .
Stats tell you consistently that a single Mom will wind up at poverty level. When you have an immature, childish one, as this woman is ... it’s doomed for failure.
I never saw it that way but you’re spot on. Maybe occasionally engaging the girl iin her native culture would be a good thing but day to day she should be just like any other english kid.
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