The BBC used to have a map of missile shield interceptor and radar bases on many of their articles on the missile shield. Oddly they've since gotten rid of them....
Basically, the United States has a much closer striking range (since Alaska could be readily sent missiles made in the contiguous United States since the state is connected by land to the bulk of the country--Hawaii would have to have the misssiles shipped) to hit the heavily populated areas of China than China would have to hit the heavily populated areas of the United States.
Yeah, I know about the interceptors at Ft. Greely, but I think you're a little optimistic in your assumption that any missile can be put into any silo.