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Excitement Deprives Children Of Happiness (Dennis On The True Pursuit Of Happiness Alert)
Townhall.com ^ | 08/07/2007 | Dennis Prager

Posted on 08/06/2007 9:09:46 PM PDT by goldstategop

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After reading this article and thinking it over, I have come to realize the difference between excitement and the true pursuit of happiness. Dennis Prager points out that in children, excitement is induced by an array of external reinforcements unconnected to true happiness. The correct definition of happiness, is that we find it within ourselves and only what we discover within ourselves makes us happy. In a word, excitement is an artificial and evanescent state of being; happiness is a part of human nature and it stays with us long afterwards. Shielding our children then, from the sources of excitement is in fact cultivating their discovery of their own happiness. And the true pursuit of happiness is an obligation of every human being on the planet.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus

1 posted on 08/06/2007 9:09:49 PM PDT by goldstategop
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Not to want is a good thing.

However this piece seems to go way beyond that. Incredibly arrogant... telling others how to live, raise their kids, and what emotions to feel or avoid.


2 posted on 08/06/2007 9:22:00 PM PDT by SteveMcKing
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The obvious that the lazy and shallow (stupid)miss.


3 posted on 08/06/2007 9:26:07 PM PDT by mefistofelerevised
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What makes a boring old man happy is not necessarily good for everyone else.

The thing is- I know exactly what he's talking about and I agree with him... for myself. I am a boring person, and very happy with that.

But I can't imagine telling others they should be like me, especially younger folks. Be yourself, whatever your age. Don't listen to grumpy old men.

4 posted on 08/06/2007 9:31:42 PM PDT by SteveMcKing
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...telling others how to live....

He's not telling anyone anything. You can take it or not. He's a wise man though who's had a profound influence on my life.

5 posted on 08/06/2007 9:42:48 PM PDT by onedoug
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Yep, Steve, you saw thru this instantly. Children are not small unexposed adults. They have something special and can be excited by a puppy, a pony ride, dad coming home from work and a million other simple things that will also make them happy.

Wet blanket Dennis would be of greater service to kids if they could hit him with water balloons.

6 posted on 08/06/2007 9:46:32 PM PDT by Navy Patriot (Zimbabwe, leftist success story, the envy of Venezuela)
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I think Prager’s right on target. Look around our secular society. We are at the zentih of material wealth and leisure time. Yet as a culture we are a train wreck of social pathology and selfindulgence. Rich kids in particular tend to be major eff ups. Prager’s terminology may be simplistic but the core message is trenchant.


7 posted on 08/06/2007 10:09:19 PM PDT by Maynerd (Bush is trying to sell a "War on Terror" against a "Religion of Peace." Confusing isn't it?)
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read later


8 posted on 08/06/2007 10:13:12 PM PDT by LiteKeeper (Beware the secularization of America; the Islamization of Eurabia)
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I think Dennis is thinking way too hard. Maybe time for a break?


9 posted on 08/06/2007 10:16:09 PM PDT by Lijahsbubbe
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Wet blanket Dennis would be of greater service to kids if they could hit him with water balloons.

They'd probably find that exciting! Har har.

10 posted on 08/06/2007 10:18:01 PM PDT by Lijahsbubbe
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To: goldstategop

Christians call this “Joy”. I was taught not to seek happiness, but true joy and peace of heart and mind. They are totally different things.


11 posted on 08/06/2007 10:25:44 PM PDT by I still care ("Remember... for it is the doom of men that they forget" - Merlin, from Excalibur)
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“Rich kids in particular tend to be major eff ups.”

I’ll bet you got that from the movies.


12 posted on 08/06/2007 10:51:56 PM PDT by Kirkwood
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It seems like many of my favorite childhood memories are ones of exciting times. Why take that away from a kid?


13 posted on 08/06/2007 10:54:50 PM PDT by Kirkwood
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"Limit the amount of excitement in your children's lives: the amount of video games, the amount of non-serious television, the amount of music whose only aim is to excite. If they are bored, they will have to remedy that boredom by playing with friends, finding a hobby, talking to a family member, walking the dog, doing chores, reading a book or magazine, learning a musical instrument or foreign language, memorizing state capitals, writing a story or just their thoughts, exercising or playing a sport, or just thinking. "

So "excitement" is Playstation, MTV and Ipod? The other activities are the left overs? C'mon!

14 posted on 08/06/2007 11:00:36 PM PDT by endthematrix (He was shouting 'Allah!' but I didn't hear that. It just sounded like a lot of crap to me.)
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"Outside of school, excitement is available almost 24/7."

At least Dennis knows school isn't exciting...

15 posted on 08/06/2007 11:07:17 PM PDT by endthematrix (He was shouting 'Allah!' but I didn't hear that. It just sounded like a lot of crap to me.)
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This is any interesting quote that agrees with you:

The Founders’ definition of “happiness” came from Sir William Blackstone’s 1765 biblically based definition: “[God] has so intimately connected, so inseparably interwoven the laws of eternal justice with the happiness of each individual, that the latter cannot be attained but by observing the former; and, if the former be punctually obeyed, it can not but induce the latter.”


16 posted on 08/06/2007 11:07:55 PM PDT by donna (Kick me. I'm a citizen!)
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Actually I see it everyday among my business associates. I work with many driven, succesful, wealthy people but many of their young adult and older teenage kids are unmitigated failures. By my observation middle class kids tend to fair better than wealthy kids for a variety of reasons. Obviously my kids are the exception ;0)


17 posted on 08/06/2007 11:16:21 PM PDT by Maynerd (Bush is trying to sell a "War on Terror" against a "Religion of Peace." Confusing isn't it?)
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I liked the article... and yes I agree with lots of it. The excitement some children have or recieving is gift is jaded if they seem to be showered with gifts on a daily/weekly level.

Thanks for posting JSGOP


18 posted on 08/06/2007 11:23:16 PM PDT by LowOiL (Yeah, I'm voting Conservative... how conservative... well Duncan Hunter conservative..)
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My six-point plan for rearing children
By John Rosemond
Summer 1989

Here it is in brief:

Point One: Pay more attention to your marriage than you pay to your children. In other words, put first things first and keep them there, where they belong and are more likely to last. If you’re a single parent, this translates: Pay slightly more attention to yourself than you do your children. You can’t supply someone else’s “warehouse” unless your own is fully stocked.

Point Two: Expect your children to obey. Stop apologizing for the decisions you make in their lives. Get back in touch with the power of the phrase, “Because I said so.” Stop trying to convince your children that your decisions are for their own good. Have they ever truly listened? Have they ever, despite all the eloquence you could muster, agreed? Essential to a child’s sense of security are parents who are authoritative, decisive and trustworthy — in a word, powerful. So get with it, parents. Your children are counting on you.

Point Three: Mobilize your children’s participation in the family by expecting and enabling them from an early age to make regular, tangible contributions to the family in the only form possible: chores. And along with making them responsible members of the family, make them responsible for their own behavior. Stop running after the bus, stop tying their shoes, stop trying to keep them from falling flat on their faces. Give them the golden opportunity to learn “the hard way” — as in from their mistakes — which is often the only way possible.

Point Four: Give your children regular and realistic doses of Vitamin N (”no”). Sufficient exposure to frustration not only helps prepare a child for the realities of adulthood but also gradually instills a tolerance for frustration. This tolerance enables children to persevere in the face of adversity, and perseverance, as we all know, is the key ingredient in every success story. Stop thinking that your first obligation is to keep your children happy. It isn’t. Your first obligation is to endow them with the skills they’ll need to pursue happiness on their own. Frustrate your children for success.

Point Five: Where toys are concerned, less is more. And the more things any one toy can be, the better. Too many toys, and especially too many of the wrong kinds, can stifle creativity and resourcefulness. When children tell us they’re bored, they’re probably trying to tell us they’ve been given too much too soon.

Point Six: Don’t be misled by the accolades given certain children’s TV programs. Remember, there’s more going on then meets the eye when a child watches television, any television. Give your children one of the most precious gifts of opportunity possible in this age of high-technology for the sake of high-technology: growing years that aren’t constantly sidetracked by the flicker of the plug-in drug.

Point Seven: What’s this? Point Seven? I know I said there were only six. Nevertheless, I can’t end without mentioning the seventh, and perhaps the most important, point of fall, which is: Love your children enough to do the first six.

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19 posted on 08/06/2007 11:24:06 PM PDT by endthematrix (He was shouting 'Allah!' but I didn't hear that. It just sounded like a lot of crap to me.)
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20 posted on 08/06/2007 11:33:31 PM PDT by Constantine XIII
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