Posted on 04/27/2007 2:13:45 PM PDT by solon_where_r_u
I am in the middle of a divorce and have a one-year old son whom I plan on raising as well as I can in the time I can spend with him. To this end, if anyone can recommend some character-centered child rearing books, I would be very grateful. Thanks..
I know it all sounds a bit trite, but I find it works.
Sure sounds excessive, to me.
I’m against pulling hear.
Suitable force thumping with a finger is fitting—especially on the child’s fingers or noggin.
A noisey fairly gentle to firm whack on a well padded butt can get their attention fittingly. But not so many times a day. Sheesh.
THE ART OF WAR?
Maybe at age 15-17.
Great point.
NAMBLA???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SUPER YUCK!
How long have you been a FREEPER?
How long do you plan to remain one?
Is poking sticks in folks’ eyes a favorite recreation?
There’s a child rearing book by a man named Richard Fugate. I can’t remember the name of the book, but my husband and I were discussing it the other day. Of all the books we read over the years, this guy’s advice was the best, in our opinion.
EXCELLENT INPUTS:
1) Consistency in discipline
2) Despite divorce, work as a team - don’t undermine each other’s authority in the eyes of the child. If a punishment has been given by the other (e.g. one week without t.v. for something), enforce it together, no matter whose house he is staying at.
3) Always demonstrate good moral character. Don’t lie to someone in front of him (even the little ones like “Tell Aunt Jean I’m in the shower”, while you’re standing right there). Model kindness and compassion to other people - not that phony baloney talk but no action, but have him see you being good to people who need help, even when you are having a bad day.
4) Always remind him of the consequences of his actions. When he does something that hurts someone else, show him how his actions hurt others. When he does something good for someone else (like befriending the bullied kid) show him how his bravery and kindness have made a difference in someone else’s life.
5) If you are religious, take him to church, where he can see a whole community of adults who live their faith.
and of course: love, love, love
GREAT INPUTS.
Okay, maybe when he's a little older.
Forget the books.
simply consider, if I were him, what would be best for me?
Then do it.
You won’t be wrong.
Keep a record of the significant things you did with and for your son. Document clearly any serious accident or injury. Note his developmental growth bits.
A journal can save you a LOT of grief as well as be a great blessing to you and your son.
It takes a village? You MUST be kidding.
Ilg and Gessell/ Your Child at One (Two, Seven) proved invaluable to us. The things you think are off the wall and you have ruined your kid are usually the norm for that age.
Yes, and Bible stories. Dorling Kindersley has a great Bible for 10-12 years +; there are wonderful picture Bible stories for earlier. We loved these, learned so much together.
It was a joke....
Sorry I offended you.
child rearing
Never mind....
No sweat.
But given some trolls I’ve ran into hereon recently, I’m a bit extra sensitive to infiltrators.
I NEVER expected to see THE KORAN or HARXIST’S IT TAKES A VILLAGE etc. to be on such a thread! . . . I guess, even as jokes.
I couldn’t possibly have gotten through my first baby without Dr. Spock. He was wonderful about illness and many other things.
He was a bit of a socialist in that he thought it would be a great idea and save money in the long run to have the government pay mothers to stay home and raise their own children.
Like many ‘good’ liberal ideas, that wouldn’t have worked, but, on the whole, I think the good Doc Spock has gotten a bad rap.
Amen!
I wish this book had been available when my kids were young.
ML/NJ
As he grows up, make sure he knows that it’s okay if things are hard. Everytime he finds something difficult, come right out and tell him that most things start out hard and get easier with practice. Too many kids grow up thinking “hard” is a sign to stop and do something easy, especially boys. Indoctrinate him well while he’s young, and he’ll have good habits all his life.
It was a jest....
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