Posted on 04/27/2007 5:01:17 AM PDT by 60Gunner
Not much you can do. Tragic for her family to be sure, but this is the single most selfish thing a person can do.
I am so sorry for this loss. I pray the Holy Spirit comforts the family and friends in this sad time.
As far as you know, this was her first attempt and it was successful for her. So she really meant it. Nothing anyone could do.
I knew a chronic suicider once. The first two times I spent many an agonizing hour talking to him. From what I hear, he is still "attempting" with new people in his life doing what I once did.
Take care.
What a tragedy! My heart goes out to everyone who knew her, and especially her family.
When I was in grade school, my girlfriend’s brother hung himself. We were playing inside her house, and he was in his bedroom. We had gone outside to play in her front yard, and heard her mom screaming in absolute anguish, having found her son’s body. The events of that day will stay with me for the rest of my life, wondering if there was something I could have done. Suicides are devastating for all involved.
I can understand your not being able to attend the funeral or the wake.
Perhaps she didn’t want to burden anyone with her pain ~
a skewed version of unselfishness in her tormented mind.
(((60Gunner)))
I had to work, and as far as dealing with my personal grief over this, I have lost friends before. I was not particularly close to this nurse, but I liked her and she was a great nurse. More than that, we had worked together in the trenches for years. You develop a closeness that is difficult to relate to those who don't experience it.
That kind of relationship also enables us to carry on when one of us falls. We grieve, of course. But we have work to do. We cry on each other's shoulders, and then we get on with it.
Cricket, that about sums it up.
Suicide is a symptom of several medical conditions - depression, anxiety, personality disorders for starters. The patient (a nurse in this case) presented no other symptoms in time for a medical intervention and treatment to occur. Just like a patient with no known heart condition that falls dead from an MI, there is nothing that can be done. It was an undiagnosed condition with fatality as the only symptom.
You are such a warrior. I pray that the Lord will continue to bless you with strength, protection, and peace.
Prayers for you and your colleagues.
You all are simply diamonds. I am blessed to know you.
Just yesterday I worked next to this float RN who I'm friendly with, our groups were busy so we didn't talk much but at the pyxis machine I asked her how things were going (I know her family (parents/siblings/exhusband) are all very dysfunctional (addicts/ETOH abuse) etc...She's about 15 yrs younger than me - anyway, I asked her in a casual way and she told me a story about her wknd that just had me shocked (imagine a full hour of COPS on tv) thats the kind of family she has....she's the only "sane" one.
She looked worn out and weary, I didn't know what to say but sympathize.
It's been bothering me today a little thinking I didn't have time to say more to her - but I think the next time I work w/her I'm going to ask her if she's ever considered talking to someone - just to "vent"...she has so much on her shoulders and she's a success despite them. I actually wondered later how she keeps it together, her home life and work life are stressful!
We all work in such a stressful environment especially in Healthcare, and we depend on each other in moments of crisis - so often we don't really know what's going on in a co-worker's home life etc. I can never understand suicide - it's numbing for those left behind.
Life is so precious, we all watch people struggle every day to hang on to it.
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