[FierceDraka]

A few years later, she meets a mature man who wants to marry her. That man raises said illegitimate child for years. Marriage doesn’t work out. What then? There was no “fraud” — no “deceit”. Woman was upfront w/ man about true paternity of the child, but that man finacially supported child, anyway. I believe courts phrase that as “implied paternity”.

True story:

A friend of mine married a woman, and adopted her son - legally.. Went through the whole rigamarole of adopting her son as a symbol of his committment to her.

Fast forward a few years.

SURPRISE! My buddy's wife suddenly decides she's a lesbian, shacks up with another woman, and files for divorce.

And guess what! My pal now has to pay support!

No fraud, no deceit, as you said. But my friend still has to sell the house he worked hard for, file for bankruptcy! Yay! Justice has been done!

Hasn't it??

(Sure, there was some other stuff that was going on, but I'm just using this as an illustration.)

[Texas_shutterbug]

When you decide to adopt a child, it's for keeps. He said "this is my child forever," not "this is my child until we divorce."

Adopted kids are NOT second class citizens.

[Tx Angel]

Ask him if he despises the child or the mother. I’ll bet he loves his child.

But I agree that some women are simply scum. How does one not know the father of their child? Or just wake up one day and think “Oh, I’m a lesbian”.