Posted on 02/15/2007 12:28:40 PM PST by Rutles4Ever
In a culture where young women take pride in having guilt-free sex with partners they barely know, Nolan and Aparicio are rarities. They have genuine boyfriends, not hook ups.
"I don't know anyone else who's in a relationship, do you?" Nolan asks Aparicio. Nope, no one else.
Hooking up has come to define sexual relationships for most of today's teens and young women. It can mean anything from kissing and touching to oral sex or intercourse. Vagueness is its hallmark. "A girl can say, 'I hooked up with so-and-so,' and no one knows what she did. It protects you and makes you a player at the same time," says Aparicio, who admits to her share of high school hook ups.
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"The C-word, commitment, is the dirty word," Stepp says. "They see relationship as draining you of everything, most of all of your time: You'll have no time for yourself, your girlfriends, your studies, your sports..."
Aparicio says friends at home think she's weird to be in a monogamous relationship. Nolan's relationship is enough of an anomaly among her friends that she says, "Some of them are curious about it -- like it's something foreign."
Stepp is not prudish or unrealistic enough to call for an end to hook ups. "I want girls to stop and think about what they are doing, and where it's going to lead them," she says.
Neither Nolan nor Aparacio knows what the future holds for their relationships. Marriage? Probably not. Aparicio even admits that hook ups with no strings have some appeal. Not that she's looking to break up.
(Excerpt) Read more at boston.com ...
I think it's jarring because those of us who went to college in the early 90's were inundated with AIDS paranoia, even among heterosexuals. Promiscuity, though it obviously existed, carried a certain amount of unspoken danger. So "whoring around" or "hooking up" was definitely not in vogue. We weren't prudes, but promiscuity was not something advertised in public.
true. lol.
However tempted I am to despair when reading articles like this, I am reminded that there is hope. There is a radical minority of youth that have seen the messed-up lives of their parents and have chosen Different. They have seen how bad Bad can get and they want no part of it. They unapologetically want Jesus, healthy families and morality. They are the Freepers of tomorrow.
"Hooking up"?
What ever happened to "whoring around"?"
Oh, they are wayyy past that...think of those stray dogs in your yard sniffing butts. ~And then getting the water hose...
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So common today.
It is now a shocking statement to say here in Iowa that you did not live with your spouse before marriage.
These poor women have been turned into unpaid prostitutes, and don't even know it.
"Brave New World" the book is comming to life, HOWEVER remember this is MSM reporting.
Hard to take them seriously because they want to push the homosexual deathstyle. The more recreational the sex, the more it works for their anti-family agenda.
I am with you. Find someone with the same beliefs and background. Use some rational thinking, and, dare I say it, ask parents and pastor what they think of this as a match.
Not a good future for our country because it destroys the concept of the family (an integral part of success of this country, btw).
Didn't this author write an article on how Boston was making single with no children apartments for single people (who conicidentally tend to be favored apartments by homosexuals)
Seems she writes a good deal on sexual politics to favor the homosexual lifestyle.
The only TV show that causes people to imitate is 24, that is a eeeeevil show because it is pro american.
Sex in the City is a harmless children's show......(according to hollyweird)
Boston Globe homosexual agenda author wrote this article.
Pushing the notion of recreational sex as normal to establish credibility for their agenda.
My generation called it being a SLUT!
Me too. And in my day, girls didn't wear shirts advertizing it.
Absolutely. But, jumping from short term to short term relationships doesn't really make you mature. I don't think it is a good habit to get into. You would learn more and mature more if you really tried to make a relationship work for a while.
BTW, I'm not talking marriage here because that is life changing choice and needs great maturity.
But they don't date. Dating is, like, what grandma used to do. They certainly don't have "friends" in any rich and multidimensional sense of the word. Honestly, it doesn't even seem like they have fun.
If they're spending all this time hooking up, when are they finding the time to study? I'm skeptical. I think media people (and some freepers) are having difficulty distinguishing between Girls Gone Wild videos and reality.
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