[Mrs. Don-o]

Women do sometimes have sex with men out of pity, but pity is a distorted basis for sexual love. Sex is attachment behavior, at best a kind of exchange of selves ("I am yours, you are mine"); and without attachment, it's ultimately sad and disappointing.

I have certainly lived long enough to see that sex without commitment mimicks, and yet insidiously undermines, what both people need: the experience of well and truly loving someone, and being loved. A kiss becomes where the soul meets the lips. Intercourse becomes a leaving of yourself and a confluence with the beloved.

The rubbing of empty bodies is not this. Not even close.

[Hildy]

Listen up Mrs. Don-O. We women JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND THE MALE URGE. We are animals...the male animal's job is to procreate. That's it...it's not to form long lasting monogamous relationships. That's our job as women. This guy wanted to experience this natural urge before he dies. The ultimate feminization of the world is to make men feel guilty for feeling this urge.

[word_warrior_bob]

The rubbing of empty bodies is not this. Not even close.

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But it's a darn good substitute in the meantime!

It was funny when Charlie Sheen asked about why he payed prostitutes for sex when he said.

"I don't pay them for sex, I pay for them to leave"

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

A kiss becomes where the soul meets the lips. Intercourse becomes a leaving of yourself and a confluence with the beloved.

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Beautiful. A chill went up my spine as I read those profoundly true words. Amen. The marriage ceremony element of the two candles lighting the one, then bride and groom blowing out their own candle in deference to the one--that is truly for the 'common good.'