[najida]

Kids blame themselves,
When something bad happens, they believe they deserve it, so they feel no one can love such a disgusting creature as they've become....

Toss in fear, a total inability to trust or feel safe,
shame, self hatred etc and you have the cocktail for a damaged child.
Please note,
he was a child of 11 who is turned into a trainwreck by the time he was 15.

Talk to anyone in your community who deals with kids in crisis, foster care etc. Shawn's story is mild compared to most who's hell start at birth. Doesn't matter, the damage is the same.

The fact that you can't understand means you've led a very blessed life. Feel comforted by that.

[BonneBlue]

You are right about kids blaming themselves. We teach our kids not to talk to strangers, not to get into anyones car and so on and so forth. We expect so much out of our kids to be able to have the power to ward off the perpetrators. The sad truth is, how can a small child ward off a big man? If the child is taken, the child feels tremendous guilt and horror that they did something wrong and it was somehow their fault right from the get go.
I think these ignorant people that insist on blaming the victim, need to educate themselves, or just shut up.

[MPJackal]

You may be right. Maybe I am falling victim to our voyeuristic society. I don't want any explicit details, but I am curious about the dynamics of this pervs ability to control.

[MOgirl]

Hello,

Also remember that Devlin was "friends" with the local cops, via managing a local pizza place. When Devlin got into a disagreement with a neighbor over a parking spot, he called the cops! He showed no fear of the police, and Shawn had to know that. Would this child believe that he had no one in authority to turn to?

MOgirl

[seekthetruth]

"Kids blame themselves, When something bad happens, they believe they deserve it, so they feel no one can love such a disgusting creature as they've become.... Toss in fear, a total inability to trust or feel safe, shame, self hatred etc and you have the cocktail for a damaged child. Please note, he was a child of 11 who is turned into a trainwreck by the time he was 15. Talk to anyone in your community who deals with kids in crisis, foster care etc. Shawn's story is mild compared to most who's hell start at birth. Doesn't matter, the damage is the same. The fact that you can't understand means you've led a very blessed life. Feel comforted by that."

Everything you said is so very true! I have worked with children for many years and know it is true. Adults who can not understand how easily children can be terrified and controled in order to survive just need to think about the two FOX employees who easily converted to Islam to have a chance to survive.

[panthermom]

And children, even very young would go to great lengths to protcet their families.