[Paddlefish]

[wideawake]

100% of violent crime victims wonder if parental discipline isn't such a bad thing.

[Incorrigible]

Somebody call Nanny 911!

[LukeL]

As Bender would say: "Have you ever tried simply turning off the TV, sitting down with your children, and hitting them?'

[Albion Wilde]

Third of U.S. parents doubt benefits of discipline

This is news? You only have to go out in public to find this out.

[Albion Wilde]

'Many are using the same techniques their parents used on them but don't think they really work.'

That's because their parents read Spock or Summerhill. They need to turn to their grandparents.

[Albion Wilde]

we strongly suspect that both yelling and spanking might be underreported

Yelling just lets the kids know that they are in charge.

[TChris]

By far, the biggest mistakes I see parents make with regard to discipline are these:

• No clear, understood boundaries for behavior.
• No consistent consequences for violating what boundaries do exist.
• Hypocrisy. (Do as I say, not as I do)

If a parent explains clear lines of expected behavior, honors those same boundaries in his own conduct and consistently applies a reasonable, significant negative consequence for violating them, then he'll have very few problems.

Praise and attention during good behavior is another critical element, IMO.

(Yes, I'm a parent. I even have teenagers!)

[spinestein]

Parents (to their child's counselor): "Hey, we've tried nothing... and it hasn't worked!"

[spinestein]

Another problem with discipline is that half of children live in a home with no father in it, or perhaps only visit their father two weekends a month. Two parents (one of each gender) in a stable household is the superior "alternative".

[Just another Joe]

There's a difference between "discipline" and corporeal punishment.

My daughters know the difference quite well.
They were "disciplined" as often as they needed.
They were corporeally punished very little.

One is 23 with a young family of her own now.
The other is 20 and living on her own.
I'm proud of both.

[<1/1,000,000th%]

The study, based on a survey of parents through community based doctors in 32 U.S. states, Puerto Rico and Canada, found the most common form of discipline was using time-outs, with 45 percent of parents using this method.

Ya think this might not work?

[cinives]

Woman in grocery store to young son, "We really really need to sit down in the grocery cart, OK ?" 3 yo ignores the wishy-washy tone and continues to use the grocery cart and shelves as a jungle gym. Mom sighs and doesn't follow up.

Grrrr !

[twigs]

parents surveyed said they 'never' or 'sometimes' perceived their methods to be effective

That's because it often takes years to show. Our society wants quick fixes. First of all, you can't "fix" people and second, discipline, along with many other things, helps direct a young person over many, many years and situations. To expect to see immediate change is not understanding parenthood.

[Irene Adler]

I have seen so many parents tell their children to stop doing something and then do NOTHING to follow up when the kids keep right on doing what they were told not to do. If you tell a child to stop doing something, you MUST be prepared to get up out of your chair and take hold of him or her and physically stop the forbidden activity. If you say stop and follow up, the message is clear. If you say stop and then do nothing, the message is also clear.

[Lucky9teen]

Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child

Corporal punishment is often used in our home with our two boys. Sometimes, they just don't get it from just "time outs" and need to be spanked on the behind.

My parents used the same discipline on me and I thank them for taking the time and effort to be consistent and loving in their discipline.

[manic4organic]

As they say in the 'hood "you ain't got no home trainin'."

[wolfcreek]

If you're a bad pet owner, don't have children.


If you're a bad parent, don't own pets.

[SmartAZ]

You don't have to beat kids, all you have to do is be consistent. The hard part is that you have to always be consistent!

[fso301]

The study, based on a survey of parents through community based doctors in 32 U.S. states, Puerto Rico and Canada, found the most common form of discipline was using time-outs, with 45 percent of parents using this method.

Use of the game term "Time-out" implicity suggests to the child a percieved lack of seriousness on the parents part.

[Aquinasfan]

The problem I see, over and over again, is either inconsistency or talking children to death. When your words are backed up by action, you don't have to yell or repeat yourself endlessly.

It seems to me that women will talk a problem to death, or negotiate endlessly. Men are less reluctant to discipline, but they tend to be inattentive to their children.