[bordergal]

And it's better to deliberately increase the number of kids going through the "my parents didn't want me syndrome"?

As one with an adopted sister, that's just plain cruel.

[Ditter]

Are you saying I am being cruel? I adopted 3 children, that was my point. I asked all 3 of my children when they turned 18 if they had any desire to located biological parents and they all said "Why should we?" Also my husband has an adopted sister and brother and of the whole group of adoptees only one, my husbands brother, had any interest in knowing who their biological parents were.

[Alkhin]

As an adopted child myself, I would hope the people who got on here and ranted that the author should just shut up and be grateful never decide to adopt themselves. Imagine how messed up THEIR adoptees would be...!!

[Alkhin]

Ditter said : "...I am saying that the child (now adult) should be grateful that she had a mother who wanted to have a child bad enough to do this. If she had adopted a child by her self would it have been better?"

SEE? what did I tell you? Typical response of someone who doesnt understand the Adoption Triad, much less the Donor child - "just shut up and be grateful."

Ditter, thats a shitty attitude to take towards your adopted children. You have no idea whats coming down the pike for you do you? My suggestion : read Primal Wound.