And it's better to deliberately increase the number of kids going through the "my parents didn't want me syndrome"?
As one with an adopted sister, that's just plain cruel.
"How is this any different from adoption where nothing is known about either parent?"
Well, going by the tone of the letter, he probably had an intelligent biological father, for one, instead of a drug addict or equivalent, as they are fairly carefully screened at reputable clinics (exceptions abound, however).
He also presumably had a mother who took very good care of herself while pregant, given that she wanted the child and did this on purpose and was free of relevant diseases at the point of coneception (otherwise she'd have been refused the treatment).
Oh, wait, these are good things.
Nobody is purposely getting pregnant in order to put their child up for adoption.
maybe she should quitherbitchin. she could have had a drunk,abusive father who was present all the time.
It is different because the mother deprived this woman of a father intentionally and permanently, no matter what kind of relationship they may develop now, and it doesn't sound too promising. You can't go back and replace the fathering that needs to be there at every stage of growth, from infancy onward.
A child adopted into a stable two-parent home at least has both parents ostensibly trying to give it all that it needs to achieve stable growth and adult competency. This author's mother did not care about her potential child's need for a father.
I don't know about adoptees other than to know that many of them have a great desire to know their biological parents. They can at least hope, pretend, make up stories about their missing biological parents as being beautiful, handsome, sorrowful about having to give them up, selfless, etc. You can't fool yourself about how disengaged your daddy was when you are the offspring of a sperm donor, who was probably paid to "donate"nor can you escape how self absorbed your mother was. It's very sad. I feel extremely sorry for such children as they know exactly what kind of selfish persons both of their parents were/are.