FREERIDER ping!
She sounds like she has "issues".
I'm sorry about your personal problems, honey.
ZPG whackos ping.
Quite frankly, we don't want people like this propagating anyway.
Some people are more wrapped up in their own lives to think about caring for another. Why should these people be upset that society values mothers who are willing to raise the next generation of outstanding Americans?
Take it up with Nature, lady. Should people apologize for being mammals now?
She's wrong too, there is no "Mother Right".
There's the "Mother Privilege", that the rest of us almost always grant to a mother when we see her struggling along with infants in tow, baby carriage, etc. That's no more a "right" than getting out of the way for somebody carrying an obviously heavy and uncomfortable package, or letting somebody who is obviously old and tired have a seat on the bus. The package guy and the old lady don't have a RIGHT to be deferred to, but civillized people do it, because hey, there but for the grace of God go I (or, in the case of the old lady, whither there est all of us, if we're lucky).
It's not a matter of rights.
It's called "People being nice and compassionate".
Jeez.
Well sometimes when women (or men) don't want to have children, it's often due to selfish reasons. They'll get fat or they won't be able to spend all of their money on themselves. Meanwhile, birthrates drop. Some countries are beginning to face crisises due to low birthrates.
My husband and I have struggled with becoming pregnant, and when someone asks (rudely!): "Why don't you two have children yet?" it makes me want to hurt them.
She apparently is now obsessively, zealously childless. This seems as empty and dimensionless as the 'designer parents' she decries.
Frankly I might share some of her opinions, but she couches them in such terms that I'm glad I never have to spend time in an elevator with her. It seems to be a lot of estrogen-induced navel gazing.
But almost all the women I've talked with describe feeling acutely aware of what they see as our national obsession with motherhood.
There is no "national obsession with motherhood." There is an irritating increasing trend toward whiney victimhood, among the exhibitionist childless and, for that matter, lots of other groups.
No plans for kids with us. Getting too old anyways.
Some of us just are not meant to be parents.
Of the four of us siblings, only one brother had kids. My sister and my other brother never did.
Kids are like cops, I dont hate 'em, I recognize we need 'em, I just feel better when they aren't around.
I dont mind paying taxes for others kids, I donate to charities that benefit kids. I see co-workers get out of work duties playing the kid card. But so be it.
She does address a very real issue that our society is very reluctant to address. Frankly, the women who should be having children--those who have the means to care for them, who have met success in life and could engender this spirit in their children--simply aren't having kids.
Meanwhile, welfare mom who sits at home pumps out 5 or 6.
This is not a model for success. The Me-Me-Mes (especially in urban areas) are a large reason Europe is going extinct.
To properly parent a child requires tons of time, patience and common sense. It seems reasonable that some may not want to make that commitment. Better not to have them than to let them run wild.
Looks like something moody Moroon Dowdy would write.
I'm glad that people who don't want children aren't having them. As long as they're not killing their unwanted children, that is. What I hate is the attitude some of them have that they're morally superior to other people because they don't have kids. I grew up as the oldest of seven and oh! some of the comments my parents recieved. My favorite was the time the grocery store bagger told us (there were only five of us at the time and I was 9) that "your mommy has rocks in her head".
The topic is a good place to toss out a rant.
I met a distant relative at a family gathering, after a very brief conversation, the topic turned towards children, specifically me answering that we didn't have any after 15 years of marriage.
This idiot would not let the subject go, like not having children is some sort of deficiency that neeeds correcting.
In case this isn't commone sense to everyone: If you meet someone thats been married a long time and discover they don't have children, either:
a) they don't want children and there's nothing you can do to change that so drop the subject. or
b) they can't have children and its probably a very touchy subject so you should drop it.
I dearly love my assorted nieces and nephews and I'm a "favorite" to them...and I just don't wish to have children of my own. The number of people who are rudely inclined to ask why is simply outrageous.
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