I think it's intellectually dishonest to categorize a large group of people as those who have been "taken care of all their lives by parents or government". There are MANY working homeless families, mothers with children who live in shelters who work two and three jobs to try to pull out of their situation. The component you reference as "lazy" are a small component, albeit part of the problem.
I think there's a fundamental disconnect in what you say on one subject (abortion) and what you say on another (take care of themselves). If you care for and about people (which you seem to), surely you can think about someone you know who works hard, pays taxes, contributes to society yet still can't make ends meet. Real wage growth in the United States is negative - in other words, the growth in real wages is not keeping pace with the cost of living as a whole. Those people who work hard yet still can't get ahead aren't failing to "cut it on their own".
I'm sorry but I just don't see the same America that you see. I see people who are happy and content with what they have. I see people who don't give up when they are down. Of course I don't live in a big city. But I do see a lot of people who feed off the government trough. Its a fact of life and its more than a few.
These people could be helped very cheaply. Give them and their children a free bus ticket out of the Big City. Yea these people are in big cities. There is no reason someone should work three jobs to support her kids unless she lives in a big city which she can not afford. Send them the Arkansas. She can work for Tysons and down here she can own a home and some property. The problem is living in a place you can not afford and not having the sense to get out of the rain. Quit building shelters and buy a free bus ticket. She is caught in a liberal web. Flee.