[Antoninus]

And we do know about your insistence on "picking a virgin", but men don't have hymens, so it's harder to check. ;)

Insistence? No, in this day and age, it's just simple common sense--especially considering all this talk about HPV and other STDs. Do you think it should be the ideal for men and women to have several sex partners before they get married? I don't--and I don't think that qualifies as "monogamy." I think the ideal is for both to abstain from intercourse until their wedding day.

[linda_22003]

And that's why it's called an "ideal". :-) But the poster was referring to monogamy within a relationship. I've been monogamous with my husband for well over twenty years (my 20th anniversary is today, in fact), but neither of us were virgins when we married.