[Peach]

This is absolute BS. All the women I know love it when men act like gentlemen and stand when they enter a room, pull out their chair, open their doors, etc.

I've never known a woman alive who thinks that good maners is creepy.

[AnotherUnixGeek]

All the women I know love it when men act like gentlemen and stand when they enter a room, pull out their chair, open their doors, etc.

The problem, of course, is that you can't tell what the women you don't know think about these things. Until they figure it out and let the rest of the world know, I'll limit my trivial chivalry to holding doors open that I enter first - just as I'd do for any man or child.

[freepertoo]

This woman adores it when a man acts like a gentleman. It's a sign of respect...something in very short supply these days.

Stop the world, I want to get off.

[-=SoylentSquirrel=-]

I thought I knew all the rules of common courtesy, but then I moved to Texas and found a concept I'd never been introduced to:

Upon exiting an elevator, allow the woman/women to exit first, no matter what their order of entry was into the elevator. If they are at the back of the elevator, stand to the side. Block the door open with your arm, if necessary.

I like the manners in Texas; it reminds me of California back in the '60s. The 1860s, that is.

[mockingbyrd]

I always thank a man who offers his seat or any other chivalrous act. I thank him for the courtesy offered to me and for his attempts to better society in general.

I was traveling last week with my three year old and one year old, and a gentleman offered to help me with my carry ons (back in the good old days) as we deplaned. I think it takes a lot of courage these days, I have heard women lash out or suggest that the man's motives were less than respectable. Pathetic.

[gitmo]

I recently offered to give up my seat for the head of HR in the company where I work. She turned to me and said I shouldn't do that, that we are all equal in the workplace. I politely told her my momma would have whupped me if she'd seen me take a seat like that. She told me I was a nut (in a joking tone of voice) and she took the seat. Then she whispered to me she loves it when a gentleman treats her like a lady.

[upchuck]

BUMP!

[Taxman]

You are, for the most part, right.

HST, I got slapped in NYC about 30 years ago while holding a heavy hotel door open for a "lady."

I was so stunned and surprised by her attack, I forgot to slap her back.

But I still hold doors open, stand when ladies enter a room, pull out chairs, etc., etc.

We Southren Gennlemen are hard wired to be that way, I reckon.

I am also predisposed to ignore the "Popular Culture," and have mostly done so for the past 35 or so years. So what the people Liz Smith hangs with do is of absolutely no concern to me.

[Kakaze]

Guess, I'm just lucky , my Lady loves it !

But then again she loves it because She Is a Lady.

[gidget7]

Visit Northampton sometime. Guys get reamed out or at least get dirty looks for displaying manners. The only thing more taboo is to give compliments.

[RikaStrom]

I've never known a woman alive who thinks that good maners is creepy.

Agreed. I always thank a man for holding a door or chair for me. I like manners in a man.

Well actually, I like manner in everyone. I wish they would go back to teaching it in the schools. The things people do now days are frightening.

(sigh) I think I am turning into a fuddy duddy.

[sam_paine]

I've never known a woman alive who thinks that good maners is creepy.

Ever been to California? I've seen it happen. A woman recoiled at a post office, "What? I don't look strong enough to open a door for myself?"

Angry twit, sure. But they ARE out there, and they are gaining.

[Freedom4US]

"This is absolute BS. All the women I know love it when men act like gentlemen and stand when they enter a room, pull out their chair, open their doors, etc.

too bad there wasn't a FR around in my earlier days. I messed up more than my share of relationships with the female of the species because I did not understand the above, at least in broad terms. I really bought into the whole "women's lib" and later, "sensitive male" bs. Maybe my intentions weren't entirely honorable 100 per cent of the time either, but as they say "YMMV"..

[HungarianGypsy]

I only don't like it when a guy pushes a woman to the side, gets to the door, and says, "I'm being a gentleman."

[Uncle Vlad]

Creepy?! I live in Omaha, Nebraska. A few days ago, at the end of the work day, I was riding down in the elevator with three ladies. One of them was carrying a large box. I instinctively asked her if she would like me to carry it for her. Although she politely declined (apparently it wasn't all that heavy), you should have seen how her face and the faces of the other women in the elevator lit up. She very much appreciated the offer, nonetheless, and they all commented on how few men hold doors, seat women in restaurants, etc.

Sorry--I plan to continue holding doors, seat women, stand wen they enter a room or leave the table, and all of that archaic Emily Post stuff. I may be a dinosaur, but I was at least a well-brought-up dinosaur.

[RobbyS]

Isn't CQ a mag magazine?