Posted on 04/17/2006 5:10:26 AM PDT by IrishMike
Kaylee (love the screenname btw) I've seen you around - I think we're similar aged young women. My mom stayed home with us, and she was often looked down on by other women. Of course she laughed at them. But women my age are 'allowed' to see home-making as a perfectly acceptable alternative to the high-powered career.
I'm finishing up at grad school. My field, computer science, doesn't have many women, and the one female professor I know is somewhat horrified that I'm "giving up" academia and getting married. But the few other student women I know think I've got a great plan. Work for a year or two, start the family, stay home, raise them, homeschool, and quite probably work from home, consulting or something. The key is to not get trapped into the two-income game, I think. I really like the idea!
Damn, did you even read the article? It doesn't say that anywhere.
Our plan is pretty much the same though - I'll work for another 5 years (round about) and then stay home with the kids. We also plan to homeschool. I also hope that programming will allow me to work, but no matter what we'll make it work. :) Good luck to you!
It's about time:)
Becky
As my wife has said, anybody is interesting if you can really get to know him or her.
YUP!
Never even thought of it that way. I just always thought, "Eww! I can't have x number of children in daycare at that rate." But, we do live in lower income areas. I know there is a waiting list for any good schools around here and I wouldn't even think of letting my children go to the school across the street from us.
I hadn't framed it to myself exactly that way before either, but from this prespective you incur significant "costs" - loss of income by one spouse or (usually) higher housing costs to be in a good school district - either way.
That's one reason one of the strongest predictors of bankruptcy is having children.
One "cost" is pretty obvious though, the higher property taxes and mortgage of the better school district. The other is less immediate but still real, the loss of lifetime earning potential by the stay-at-home spouse - a decade or two out of the work force and it's often very difficult to get back on-track toward earning "what you are worth."
And of course is there is a divorce the spouse with the interrupted working career frequently takes a *huge* subsequent financial hit; in any but quite affluent families divorce is a substantial burden for both partners, but on the average the majority of the financial disadvantage falls on the nonworking spouse, usually the the wife - the continuously employed spouse often earns a higher income and will be relieved of financial obligation once child support and/or alimony ends, but the nonworking spouse in often faced with a lifetime of lower earnings due to their interrupted careers.
the headline was only The ‘new woman’ is a housewife
So you're saying it's the original poster with the grammatical "misunderstanding".
I like this trend. My daughter has benefitted from me being home with her to raise her, no nannies, babysitters for us. And, I am a damn good housekeeper.
My mother on the otherhand is a successful business woman who keeps trying to push me into the working world and going back to school. I have a highschool diploma, that is as far as I have gone, I decided to settle down with a family early, and it was the best decision I have made. I wish I didn't have so much pressure put on me to "get a job" when I have a very important job already.
Being a mother is the most important.
If your mother was as good a mother as you are, she wouldn't be putting un necessary pressure on you. Pushing you into the 'working world'....... you're already there.
If you can stay at home with your daughter, you are lucky.
bttt
You hit the nail on the head...she was a terrible one...
I figured from what you said,
Good luck and best wishes to you and your daughter.
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