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The cult of the mean girl
TORONTO STAR ^ | Mar. 5, 2006 | LESLIE SCRIVENER

Posted on 03/06/2006 9:51:00 PM PST by tbird5

It happens to the best of women. Here's Rosalind Wiseman, who has spent her entire working life teaching girls to treat each other decently. The script for the movie Mean Girls was based on her 2002 best-selling Queen Bees & Wannabes, a book that helps parents understand the drama and danger in the adolescent girl world. She knows the minefields that lie in gossip, jealousy, disloyalty and cruel judgments, and offers solid prescriptions for changing bad behaviour.

Yet despite her experience, she recently found herself sizing up two mothers who came to see her.

In her view, the women paid too much attention to their appearance, especially their hair. They seemed catty in their conversation, were micromanaging their kids' lives, and were silly.

"All these things came into my head. Why? They are antithetical to what I teach and believe," Wiseman says. "I was still judging these women."

Where does this nastiness come from?

Wiseman thinks it exists because it's supposed to exist. Being nasty to each other is one of the unspoken rules about how girls and women are supposed to behave; one of the rigidly enforced North American standards of what constitutes femininity.

"It's everything you know but haven't been sat down and taught," as Wiseman puts it.

When she judged the two women so harshly, it was as if she was acting out one of the observations she made in her book — that girls and women can be their own worst enemies.

(Excerpt) Read more at thestar.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: psychology
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To: RockinRight

How do you feel about blondes?


261 posted on 03/07/2006 1:35:25 PM PST by Hoodlum91 (pcottraux says I'm special!)
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To: peacebaby

complete idiocy doesn't deserve a response.


262 posted on 03/07/2006 1:35:41 PM PST by conservativebabe
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To: Hoodlum91

I have to say I like blondes!

Why do you ask? ;-)


263 posted on 03/07/2006 1:35:53 PM PST by RockinRight (Attention RNC...we're the party of Reagan, not FDR...)
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To: conservativebabe
Heh, I'm sliding fast into the 'change of life', and I'm reading that women who are a little zoftig do not have as many uncomfortable physical difficulties like hot flashes as skinny women do because their hormone levels are not as out of whack.
Whew! Glad to know that!
264 posted on 03/07/2006 1:36:07 PM PST by SuziQ
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To: Toby06

"all flavors."

giggling here...I think I'm gonna fall out.


265 posted on 03/07/2006 1:36:27 PM PST by peacebaby
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To: handk; Allegra; Dashing Dasher
That's cute Mr Handk

I still have all my teeth, I lived through child birth, I bring in almost what my husband makes to have a good life, I am currently raising 2 fine boys and I help the elderly make sure their Medicaid and finances are correct so that creeps can't rob them.

I am glad I suck sir
266 posted on 03/07/2006 1:36:33 PM PST by PaulaB
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To: handk
Women from Central America, South America, Asia, Eastern Europe are just wonderful. Oh, and there's about a billion of them. LOL. American women suck.

You at least smart enough to realize that a comment like that pretty much classifies you as an idiot, don't you?

Hmmm...then again, maybe you aren't smart enough...

And therein lies the problem. ;-)

267 posted on 03/07/2006 1:36:44 PM PST by Allegra (Please pray for peace in Iraq.)
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To: RockinRight
I'm just going to sit back and enjoy our fine Freeper babes ripping you a new one after that comment...

Which, of course, will only reinforce my point. One of the defining traits of American women is their utter lack of accountability or introspection, and they whine; "Where are all the men?"

Answer: They're pursuing foreign women.

268 posted on 03/07/2006 1:37:21 PM PST by handk (The truth is the truth even if no one believes it, and a lie is a lie even if everyone believes it.)
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To: SuziQ

Good to know.

LOL!


269 posted on 03/07/2006 1:37:21 PM PST by conservativebabe
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To: RockinRight

I'll agree with that, but my time with ultra-alpha's is done. I'm not exactly an ultra-alpha male myself, and would prefer to be with someone similar.

Yes, generalizations are generally false.


270 posted on 03/07/2006 1:37:23 PM PST by Toby06
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To: gogeo

BWHAHAHAHA!


271 posted on 03/07/2006 1:37:38 PM PST by Feiny ( "Why don't we go up to the old people's home and wax the steps? " ~ Barney Fife)
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To: Hoodlum91

I've gone rounds with him before...


272 posted on 03/07/2006 1:37:40 PM PST by RockinRight (Attention RNC...we're the party of Reagan, not FDR...)
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To: Mr. Blonde

As an adult, I look back horrified at things that were said and done to me in early adolescence and also EVEN MORE HORRIFIED by my own behavior!


273 posted on 03/07/2006 1:37:45 PM PST by Muzzle_em ("Mayor Nagin, what about those buses?")
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To: RockinRight; Hoodlum91

Both of you---
GO TO YOUR ROOM (see, I got it right this time).


274 posted on 03/07/2006 1:38:40 PM PST by najida (Me arguing for logic and against emotion is like Mother Teresa becoming a pole dancer.)
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To: peacebaby

Glad you liked that one.


275 posted on 03/07/2006 1:38:56 PM PST by Toby06
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To: handk

I'm simply not understanding you.

You must be single and lonely.

Bless your heart.


276 posted on 03/07/2006 1:39:38 PM PST by peacebaby
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To: handk
"American women suck."

Yes, we do and my man says I am the best. Gulp.

277 posted on 03/07/2006 1:39:58 PM PST by Feiny ( "Why don't we go up to the old people's home and wax the steps? " ~ Barney Fife)
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To: handk

American men who pursue foreign women don't have the cajones to handle an intelligent woman.

(see - I can generalize too)


278 posted on 03/07/2006 1:40:13 PM PST by Hoodlum91 (pcottraux says I'm special!)
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To: najida

EXCELLENT!!! A middle of the week banishment!

Thank you my dear! ;-)


279 posted on 03/07/2006 1:41:05 PM PST by Hoodlum91 (pcottraux says I'm special!)
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To: feinswinesuksass

Howling here........

Geez,you've got guts.


280 posted on 03/07/2006 1:41:23 PM PST by peacebaby
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