In every court district. If both parties can agree on their own terms, the court does not involve itself. The court gets involved in the details only when people involve it.
you are correct. I did not express my thoughts completely enough to be clear. let me try again
In the case where one party is being unreasonable, the courts will usually shaft the man. Even if the woman is the unreasonable one and when she broke the marriage. At least that's been the experience in my portion of the country and (from first hand reports here) in quite a few other areas as well.
This is not to say that every man who gets divorced gets shafted but it happens enough that men have grown very wary of marriage.