As always in anonymous internet examples, I'll have to take your word for it.
But I could throw at you examples of many people who failed to stay married, but managed to work out reasonable accommodations for raising their kids best they could. I know fathers who have custody, mothers who had custody, and my own life, where I was welcome in either home any time, depending on what was happening. My parents divorced, and no court assigned me to one parent or the other, there was no schedule, we worked it out, including splitting my college expenses. Court ordered child support and calendars of visitation are only for those who refuse to be reasonable.
Not in every court district I'm afraid.
I've read your posts on the above and agree. In divorce situations, throughout American history, women were most often awarded custody of the children, and then also the house because they were awarded custody of the children. These court decisions have NOTHING to do with feminism or even no fault divorce, though divorce, itself, has been on the increase since no fault divorce was instituted. Because more men are experiencing divorce, it is my belief more men are angry about the traditional way the courts have handled divorce. And yes, you are correct. Most couples decide how to handle things, outside of the courtroom.