Posted on 03/01/2006 7:09:06 AM PST by ZGuy
Exactly right. I so agree. It's something I didn't see that way (as above) until recent years, though I always advocated dating five years either way from my own age.
While I most prefer a five year difference, ten years is the absolute limit (I recently had the same thought as a result of these threads), you are so correct.
And companionship in their own old age. Maybe they'll get lucky and marry again after finishing the raising of the kids, alone... I realize we can all be widowed by accident or disease any time.... and I say that with full sympathy for anyone, especially John, who's lost a spouse. And May-December marriages can be good. I have a good friend of mine who married a man much older than herself, but they met by accident and decided to marry despite the age difference, they didn't seek it out. At 45, she's still happy, but he's inevitably failing... a little senility he'll argue about and deny, hard of hearing... He's becoming old. It's an unavoidably selfish thing to seek to marry someone you you can fully expect to leave alone for the last 15-20 years of their life.
Agreed.
Good point.
Besides, who would want to be married to someone who doesn't know who Jack Wild was (or HR Pufnstuf, for that matter)?
My wife and I are 4 years apart, and even that gets in the way sometimes. She was disco, I was new wave. She was "The 70's", I was post-aids epidemic.
But 4 years is still something that can be overcome.
Most agreed. It's selfish to steal their youth as well.
My husband is 5 years younger than me...
I wonder if he remembers HR Pufnstuf :~D I haven't asked :~D
My wife is always going on about 'The Banana Splits'. To this day I have no idea what she's talking about :)
We're both over 55. I'm a widower, she's divorced. There are no minor children to worry about, we're both set financially and it's nobodies business but ours.
Bill is the guy we had fun with back in our Wild Child days, but if we were smart we never took him seriously.
I also think the saying from a few elections ago is true, that George Bush (pere) did not poll well with women because he reminded too many of them of their first husband. :)
A group of coworkers I was in several years ago had one much younger member of the group. The same sort of remark was made in an article I had read; an older man who used to date much younger was explaining why he had gone back to women his own age - "You get tired of waking up in the morning next to someone who never heard of Adlai Stevenson."
Everyone laughed at this except the much younger woman, who looked blank. I said, "Adlai Stevenson!"
She got testy and replied, "All RIGHT. Who WAS she?"
*Shrug* I tried three days. It didn't work either...
Yet the Hildabeast married him...
I've known LOTS of marital combinations among people I know that I couldn't begin to understand. Haven't you? :)
~funny~ :~D
Xena's Guy married me after seven years of living together.
Heck, I've even been in one!
Or as Xena's Guy says, "Why would I go out for milk when I have a cow at home?"
Because you like strawberry milk?
Or even chocolate?
One doesn't fall in love with an age, one falls in love with a human being with a soul.
Age is only important if you make it an issue.
My 94 year old neighbor passed away this year. She was a medical doctor and a painter. She left behind her husband of 27 years who is 62. He is a professor of music and a church organist. They were a happy devoted couple who had a beautiful life together.
BTW She lost her first husband when she was forty three...he was only 45 and he died,
Death and loss can occur at any age.
True love is eternal and does not fade with age.
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