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What I think LizardQueen is saying....it that it's better to look into an empty back yard than at a
jail cell,
or a tombstone,
or a psyche ward....

All the places that kids could end up when their the parents shouldn't have had them.

It takes tremendous heartache and courage to acknowledge the kind of parent you could be.....I have more respect for those who see that as a strong chance and walk away than those who say "I have the plumbing, lets have a kid!"

Then methodically destroy them.

I prefer to trust in God. Because God knows what is best for me and my family...more than even I do..

It is a matter of faith and perspective.

If we all changed our plans because the NWS issues a "severe thunderstorm watch"...we would miss out on some afternoons.

Just because conditions are favorible for something, doesnt mean it is going to happen. If there is a 50% of rain showers, I am not staying home from a Reds game.

Only God knows what the future will bring.

Thank you.

Having kids is too important to do it wrong - and "wrong" includes when one or both parents are unwilling or incapable of being good parents, or when they are had because "everyone else is having them" or as an accessory like many Hollywood babies, or when the marriage is on the rocks and the baby is created to "save it" .

Kids deserve a whole and well mother and father who both want them and are willing to do what it takes to raise them. Having them under the circumstances I mentioned is IMHO a bigger "sin" than not having them at all.

But the good reverend would probably not see it this way - after all, fewer babies born to Baptists equals fewer parishioners and less money, doesn't it.

LQ

I've known entirely too many people who had kids for absolutely horrible reasons to take the decision to become a father lightly. I've known unmarried couples who didn't actually have sex, but fooled around, and the girl would get a "semen sample" after one of their rolls in the hay and impregnate herself. Why? To keep the guy from leaving her.

I've known married couples who, by all logic, should never have gotten married. They began to realize this after a few months of hating each other. A divorce could have solved the problem, and because they didn't have any children, there would be no innocent third parties hurt. So what did they do? They decided to have children in order to keep them together. Predictably enough, they became even more miserable, and their kids are nuts.

I have a cousin who is an absolute baby factory. She married an idiot and had three kids with him. They're divorced now, and she wants to get remarried... to an even bigger idiot. And guess what: she wants more children. She is unable to support those kids on her own. She needs either a guy or someone in our family to support her. And her "market value" as a mate continues to drop with every new kid she pops out.

Of course, I'm only 23 right now. So I guess it makes some sense that I don't want kids. I'm not saying that I won't change my mind later on. But from what I've seen, kids = misery. So until I decide some day to strap a ball and chain to my ankle and maybe even sire some mini-mes, I'm keeping my naughty bits to myself.