Thank you.
Having kids is too important to do it wrong - and "wrong" includes when one or both parents are unwilling or incapable of being good parents, or when they are had because "everyone else is having them" or as an accessory like many Hollywood babies, or when the marriage is on the rocks and the baby is created to "save it" .
Kids deserve a whole and well mother and father who both want them and are willing to do what it takes to raise them. Having them under the circumstances I mentioned is IMHO a bigger "sin" than not having them at all.
But the good reverend would probably not see it this way - after all, fewer babies born to Baptists equals fewer parishioners and less money, doesn't it.
LQ
My mom had an alcohol problem for years.
Frankly, I am glad she didnt avoid having me or abort me.
She put her trust in God. Has been sober since 99.. And believe me, life has not been easy.
There is never a perfect time for anything.
Look,
I became sterile in my late 20's.
Then I married with the hopes of adoption.
Later, I fostered....alone.
THAT is when I really understood that--
a. Children need two loving parents.
b. Children need an mentally together, emotionally strong, stable person caring for them.
c. Children need a consistant life.
I couldn't provide all of that, and I know I never can. So I quit fostering.
End of story.
That sounded a bit bitter. I've been around over 40 years, I've seen very few people raised by absolute well and whole people and yet they manage to overcome a childhood raised by imperfect parents.
I have raise 3 wonderful kids even tho I went thru divorces and fathers that weren't available in one way or another, poverty and my own mistakes and shortcomings. My children have never said 'I wish I'd never been born'. They see where they want to do better raising their children by their parents failures. That's the circle of life if you will.