Posted on 12/03/2005 2:09:57 AM PST by Cincinatus' Wife
Mandisa likes Abercrombie & Fitch, not FUBU.
She speaks proper English, not Ebonics.
She takes honor classes and belongs to the Beta Club and National Arts Honors Society at Parkview High. She plays the violin and has danced and sung in area productions of The Nutcracker and My Fair Lady.
Mandisa Surpris, a 15-year-old sophomore, is all this.
And shes black.
Some of the other black students dont know what to make of her. The way she dresses, the way she talks, the grades she earns. Shes an anomaly. To them, shes more white than black. Theyve even told her so to her face.
Its the most ignorant statement Ive ever heard, Mandisa told me. A lot of black students have the ability, but they think that being smart isnt cool. So they hide it.
She can talk about her experience now because she knows how to deal with it. That hasnt always been the case.
Last year, the comments, slights and snubs took a toll. Mondays, the start of the school week, were especially tough. Shed complain of pain in her limbs. Mom and Dad took her to several doctors. Tests were taken and exams were given. Nothing.
Then, a doctor at Emory University wondered if her illness wasnt psychosomatic. Something, he said, must be going on in Mandisas life thats making her body ache. It was a breakthrough.
Mandisa, crying, had a heart-to-heart with Mom and Dad. She told them how some not all black students treated her as an oddity because she didnt succumb to their idiotic and destructive views of the black diaspora. My words, not hers.
It was painful, said Renald Surpris, her father. Some black kids dont have the education and understanding to accept people for who they are, not what they look like.
I know what some of you are thinking. Here Rick goes again. Writing about race. Stirring up trouble. Critics say it all the time. I dont care. I write about racial issues carefully and selectively, and sometimes, when Im ticked off.
Like now.
My people, my people. Some of you disturb me. Theres something terribly wrong when black students even one at Parkview or any other Gwinnett campus criticize, ridicule and question the blackness of someone like Mandisa simply because she wants to excel.
Its even sadder in this case because Parkview High is no ghetto school. Its student population doesnt hail from lower-income apartment complexes and subdivisions. At Parkview, the parents and students consider their school the crème de la crème of public schools, the clientele upper-crust perhaps and at the very least middle-class.
So I blame parents. You black parents.
Its your fault if your children think academic achievement is uncool, anti-black and pro-white. Its your fault if your offspring are so enthralled with the so-called thug life that they devalue education, hard work and dedication.
And youre especially to blame if your childs sense of black culture means that you have to think and act a certain way, and that to do otherwise means youre acting like whitey.
Its your fault. And youre crippling your kids.
Mandisa wants to pursue acting or a career in the fashion industry. She plans to attend college in New York, her birthplace. Im sure shell be fine.
Its the kids who ridicule her that I worry about. When they succumb to this crippling ignorance, we all lose. Well have fewer doctors, teachers, artists and more. Fewer people to be proud of.
This is why it is hard to find exceptional black candidates for positions of influence in government and the corporate world. It has little or nothing to do with racism anymore; it is strictly the fault of the black 'community' not condemning the ghetto trash attitudes of most of black teenagers and young adults these days.
Lumping in Farrakhan with gangsta rap culture is pretty silly.
I have too -- the dean of students at the Tennessee Bible College I attended used to offer to "hep you pack" when you protested their very strict rules. And he was the whitest man I ever met.
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