Posted on 11/07/2005 9:04:47 PM PST by Lorianne
Reading a piece about dating in The New York Times Magazine on Sunday, I felt like a Rip Van Winkle who fell into matrimonial sleep 15 years ago and awoke to find courtship had regressed back to the Victorian era.
Dowd said that she knew the coquettish rules for dating long before she had heard of ''The Rules,'' a 1995 bestseller on how to play hard to get in order to land a husband.
I... had heard of ''The Rules'' by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, but I assumed it was part of the backlash against feminism and would go the way of Marabel Morgan's ''The Total Woman.'' How many women, after all, still get naked and wrap themselves in Saran Wrap to greet their husbands at the door? (My husband might argue, not enough.)
Skimming ''The Rules,'' I learned how to play hard to get — 15 years after I'd been got. Make your date wait, always let the man do the asking, don't offer to pay, and don't set foot in public without makeup.
I laid this at the feet of Dr. Robert M. Gordon, an Allentown psychologist.
''The Rules,'' Gordon said, are right in one sense: ''If you play games, it will help you catch a man. But it won't help you keep him. It won't help you to have an enduring, satisfying relationship.''
Dowd had cited a British study that showed the chance of marriage for men increased by 35 percent with each 16-point rise in IQ. For women, there was a 40 percent drop in their marriage prospects for each 16-point increase in IQ.
So smart men don't want to marry smart women? Gordon argued that a man who comes from a family that values education and has loving relationships won't want a dim wife.
(Excerpt) Read more at mcall.com ...
Short answer, "YES!". And I am a woman. God bless my husband as he listens to a 1,000 word answer that could have been answered with a simple, "yes, I made dinner". LOL
My wife is smarter than me, and I've never had a problem with it. Sounds like Dowd is trying to justify why she's a shrew, unaware it has little to do with her "intelligence".
I find it hillarious Dowd thinks she's that smart.
And most men will tell you that SANITY is more of a deal breaker than anything. Also, men are visual not auditory - we tend to converse only for the purpose of communicating *important* info - so if you think you may be talking too much...
Yes.
I'd be happy if they could be trained to leave the toilet seat up.
This sounds like one of those "wife-beatings on Superbowl Sunday" stats to me.
Smart men do not marry bitches.
Smart women marry real men.
Bitchy supercilious feminists sit home alone and whine about men.
Not exactly. Smart men don't want to divorce smart women.
Yes, absolutely! Please just STFU!
I've been waiting for someone to ask my opinion on this topic. Thanks! I feel better already :-)
This Margie Peterson woman really needs to put a sock in it.
Only sexist, brutish neanderthals think that way. I , on the other hand, believe women have the right to talk as much as they damn well please.
Depends on the woman.. and the subject..
Or maybe he has one of these with an OFF switch.
;->
Your Weim really needs to see a dentist.
No thank you. It's in the eyes.
Dowd is just a bitter old tart.
Hell, yes! SHUTUP!
I married into a family of compulsive talkers. In order to speak one has to yell above everyone else.
My mother-in-law is bad, but my brother-in-law (If you know him he probably owes you money) is worse!
My sister-in-law is not as bad but my wife is getting worse by the day!
My father-in-law was the quiet type and died years ago. Family members say he was henpecked to death.
Me? I love the quiet. nice music, no interference, alone with my thoughts. And I refuse to be henpecked to death!
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