As I read the comments, I was amazed at the responses. I don't blame women for not wanting to end up as single mothers because the man in their life is not willing to stick around to be a father to the children! Aren't some of the same people condemning the writer people who also condemn single/divorced mothers? How responsibile is it to have a child knowing there is a low probability that the father will stick around long.
I am watching my own son's generation as they go from relationship to relationship with no thought of long-term commitment. I just saw a study yesterday that said the average age of marriage is increasing - to over 30 in some areas. This is an issue. Women have to focus on their careers if there is no one to provide for them.
Even though I had a "provider", I have stayed current with my career "just in case" - especially since he showed no real interest in the children once we had them. Plus, I enjoyed my career. Fortunately, since I had my own business, I was able to be there to take the kids to school and to pick them up afterwards and be there for them. I am happy with most of the choices I made, but I think I was very lucky.
Well, yes, but it won't work unless all women close their legs. As long as a lot of women are willing to have sex without marriage, the nice women who say "No" will hear their dates say "Bye," in response.
A hundred years ago almost all women said "No" until they had a ring. If a man wanted to have regular sex, he had to get married. His only alternative would be to pay for sex, which meant he stood a good chance of contracting incurable syphilis, with certain insanity and death. If he wanted his own house, a decent lifestyle, AND regular sex, he got married. Consequently the average man got married early.
Today it's different. Women stopped saying "Not until we're married" or "Not until we're engaged" in the 1960s. As long as there's all that available sex out there, men have no motivation to get married. And the woman who says no may find herself alone for good. So abstaining is not going to work as a way of luring men back to marriage until everyone agrees to it, which would require a return to Judeo-Christian values large segments of our society have pretty much abandoned.
Women have to choose between having a career or motherhood. Another advantage to being a man.