Posted on 09/18/2005 3:05:48 AM PDT by Caipirabob
Over a casual dinner, Rachel Kaplan turned to her boyfriend and asked, "You're open for a prenup, right?"
Darren Waldohlz, 38, a partner in a successful speed-dating business, admits he was caught off guard. But he said he realized a prenuptial agreement would protect the house he owns, too.
"It's not that I plan to get divorced," says Kaplan, 23, a single mom from Fort Lauderdale, who has a sizable inheritance. "I have to protect myself and my daughter."
While men are still more likely to seek a prenup, "women are becoming a more dominant force," said attorney Alan Braverman, who has offices in Fort Lauderdale and Boynton Beach.
Experts attribute the change to women marrying later or more than once.
"It's not uncommon in today's world that women are entering marriages with assets and stock options," said matrimonial attorney Jacqueline Valdespino, in Coral Gables. "Now both sides have equal bargaining power."
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Just kidding. I do mourn the moral and cultural breakdown that has reduced "Holy Matrimony" to a business transaction. And yet seriously, I don't blame many of these people.
It's a sad fact that the societal morality has degraded and destroyed the significance of marriage to the point where the social perspective of divorce bears no more stigma than a trip to the ATM. And since many divorces end up being a trip to the ATM for one or the other party, a prenuptual agreement is a wise approach if you have any lingering doubts.
Yet my thoughts would be that if you have any doubts, why bother getting married at all?
Let's face it, unless you AND your mate are strongly ground in morality, more than likely derived from a lifetime of faith, you are fodder for divorce lawyers.
Otherwise marriage is a temporary state that endures until one or the other partner decides they like the Lexus more than their partner.
I'm not being dour, just practical.
On the other hand, there is a place for non conditional marriage in this world. I hope that many who read this are part of such a relationship and pray that the others who hope to enjoy such one day.
Anyway, so what do y'all think? Have at it...
That's exactly what your doing, you little harpy.
LOL! Nearly word for word I had the same thought.
My only question is how to breach the subject of a prenup to your SigOther without having a plate of fettucine alfredo smeared on your face? Or, even worse (far worse), heart-wrenching sobs accompanied by 'why don't you trust me!'
She wanted to protect her inheritance for her child. If this was a first marriage, I would agree, but with a second marriage you do owe something to protect and provide for your child, just in case you were blinded by lust, oops, I mean love.
They could also be protected by your will, but...
sign ..............
If you're looking for outs before you make the commitment, what's the point? You're simply preparing for failure. Not many succeed while preparing for failure...
My wife and I were gonna have a prenup but we couldn't agree on who got the tent and who got the VW sans floor so we just said the hell with it.
In other words," I want him to support me and my child until my inheritance comes in, but then he gets nothing when I make my escape."
We've gotta change the marriage vows.
"I _____ take you ______ to be my lawful wedded ______, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."
Change to:
"I vow that I'll stay until I don't."
It'll shorten the ceremonies.
LOL, I'm guessing John sKerry had to sign one.
Ah, the good old days...
Yet my thoughts would be that if you have any doubts, why bother getting married at all?
Marriage has a long history of being just a business transaction. Marrying for love is a very recent phenomenon (maybe the last couple of centuries).
Exactly. When my wife and I were first married, neither of us had squat. Everything we've got now, we've gotten together.
Back in the day, it used to be common practice that the guy hand over his nups (or at least have them taken) on their wedding day. Now she wants prenups? This maybe going too far...
Yep, to many found out the hard way. Plus pren-ups also protect businesses to stay intact, which I am sure the employees appreciate! How many businesses have been ruined and liquidated just to pay the ex?
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