I have known and admire several powerful women. As with men some fail in relationships because relationships are give and take and all they can give is directions and criticism. It takes a seriously well-grounded, self confident male like the OldEagle to be in a relationship with any woman. ;D
" : When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started."
A little condesending aren't we. I imagine most companies could survive quite well without 30 vice presidents and other window dressing executives but just let them try to get by without secretaries and assistants.
As for meeting men I don't have much of a problem, mine comes home every night and the 24 year marriage seems to be working. Funny thing is I did not have to dumb myself down or play helpless to attract him. Honestly to put a simple spin on things as Jeff Foxworthy said " all men want one thing. To see a woman naked and to have a beer". Work with that motto and you will have em lining up.
no duh--but didn't she say earlier in her response that these men are more likely to want the "secretary?" so how does this corporate warrior princess go about bagging this accomplished fella?.. or go about letting him bag her?
You have to appeal to them, Deluxe sweetie. It might help to quit swinging your elbows and barking orders at them.
Remember, only the man has to be in the mood!
hahahaha!!
I'm American of Italian heritage... I like garlic ;-)
What have you been doing for the past 10 years? Smart women have had their pick of the litter. Ya gotta take the left overs and apparently you can't find any suitable one in bars.
JMTC...
Men are not complicated creatures: give them their beer, their dinner and their loving and they will belong to their women for life.
The first thing is to make a man feel good when he is with you- it's not rocket science. This means, if you're a woman, loving the fact that you are female and reveling in your feminine qualities and, through those qualities, exuding to a man that you truly like him and love being around him. Men know without a doubt when they have met up with a hostile, resentful, miserable woman and those women will be left strictly alone.
Make a man feel like a man and believe me, he will take it from there. I am so sick and tired of hearing these women whine and cry about the fact that they are alone and cannot find a man- they should try thinking for themselves and not buy into the feminist lies and they may have a chance at true happiness.
I think the basic problem is that powerful women are essentially wired the same way as powerful men--they're smart, driven, sometimes ruthless, and most likely self-absorbed to some degree. The difference is that while there are some women who can deal with a partner like that (the long absences from home, etc)--especially if financial benefits are involved--there are far fewer men who can.
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DEAR CHOPPED LIVER,
Men crave to be needed, useful, and desired. Look in any organization or church where women are in charge and there will be a lack of men. especially in churches. You do not have to fiegn helplessness, but there needs to be an invitation and a place in your life that a man can be desired by you. If you have the attitude that " I don't need a man I can hire anything out I want" then you will be alone.
In my experience, quite a few "powerful" women, especially those with a strong feminist ideological grounding, have had bad experiences with stalkers, control-freaks, and other psychos. At least they seem to talk about such experiences a lot.
This naturally tends to reinforce their low opinion of men. It seems just as likely to me though that the constant barrage of hostility, suspicion, and man-bashing from these women might tend to exclude any men who are not hyper-aggressive and neurotically possessive.
An admittedly extreme example:
I didn't date for two full years after my wife died. It wasn't a limit I had set, it just took that long to start feeling like it again.
A couple I knew then set me up with my first date, and it seemed like a good one.
The woman was none other than a well-known science fiction writer whose work I liked. I got on her good side right away by taking along a couple of books for her to autograph. We hit it off very well at first, though we did argue a little, in an academic sense, about what she called "women's issues."
Then, after a couple of dates, I ran into her on campus and asked her join me for a cup of coffee. As we were sitting in the local IHOP, she started in about stalkers and other evil types. I said, almost rhetorically, "You've seen that I'm not anything like that, haven't you?"
At that point, her face changed, she started to become livid, and she almost shouted, "You better not be! I'll take you down if you try that s*** with me! I've got a gun at home, I'll blow your f***ing head off if you try it!"
*GULP*
People were staring at us, perhaps wondering what I had done to her. I suddenly remembered a pressing engagement elsewhere (anywhere in fact) and excused myself. The door didn't hit me on the way out and I never spoke to her again.
Interestingly enough, her writing career has gone down the toilet the last few years. Her navel-gazing feminist schtick has worn thin and she doesn't seem to have a replacement.
That sounds like a bunch of poo.
Such women seem to attract either A)total low life losers or B)wusses with low self image.
Their loss.
700+ posts already. Wow. I'm guessing there might be some good reading here.
If she's that bright, don't you think she could figure this one out for herself?
Men are where women are. Those who aren't don't want to be found by a woman.
Men are like wine, and women are like milk.
Men get better with age and experience,
Women just get sour and start to smell bad.There are always takers for older, high priced, fancy wine.
Nobody wants older, high-priced fancy women.