Woman in power is powerless when it comes to meeting men

http://www.mcall.com/ ^ | September 17, 2005 | Amy Alkon

[teldon30]

Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?

Deluxe Chopped Liver

Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''

''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is — unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.

Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' — unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' — women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street

[airborne]

I'm available. ;^)

[FOG724]

Clueless women!

[thoughtomator]

...and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?

I think the Prince of Monaco might already be taken, which is a common problem with women nowadays.

[frankjr]

Here is photo of "Deluxe Chopped Liver"...

[apackof2]

Clueless women!

Care to provide some clues then?

[sgtbono2002]

Some people meet at church others meet at the frozen food section of the grocery store. Get your nose down where it belongs and it shouldnt be a problem.

[MadIvan]

I recently encountered a lady who told me in no uncertain terms that she was expecting a Dior watch, trips to exotic places and to be "treated like a princess" as part of a relationship.

That sort of behaviour makes me instantly say, "Cheque, please."

Regards, Ivan

[Mike Bates]

. . .unless you count frisky 85-year-olds. . .

You RANG?

[cynicom]

Knew a "lady" like that once. My friend the plumber was called there countless times to plumb.

[Lizavetta]

But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses.

They're not looking for a subordinate woman.......just one who's not competing with him. Don't blame them one bit.

[apackof2]

Prince of Monaco might already be taken, which is a common problem with women nowadays

And Princess Diana is dead.....so are both sexes looking for perfection nowadays?

[FOG724]

Care to provide some clues then?

Certainly. They should be asking men out not waiting for men to ask them out.

[apackof2]

Just where are you encountering women like that?!

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places?

[dinok]

Women like her paint themselves in a corner.

Men of lesser status or financial ability are out of the question. I've seen it in my company. Our two female execs are both unmarried and good looking. But they can't hold on to a man. These woman are so used to bossing people around they don't know how to turn it off.

[thoughtomator]

Could be... with the media saturation of "beautiful people", I wouldn't be surprised if most looking had something like that in mind.

[marktwain]

I recently encountered a lady who told me in no uncertain terms that she was expecting a Dior watch, trips to exotic places and to be "treated like a princess" as part of a relationship.

Heck, she was just explaining pricing! :-)

[Nexus6]

I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count...drunks at the corner bar)

A lot of those guys are probably VP's themselves, what's she complaining about?

[stockpirate]

Check out the book "Getting the Love You want", by Dr. H. Hendrix.

[gridlock]

Find a church with a nice big congregation and start to attend regularly. Get to know the people there as a woman who worships, and volunteers in the food pantry, and teaches Sunday School. Be vague about your work and resist the temptation to brag. If your car is too ostentatious, park it around the corner.

After about six months of this, the Little Ol' Ladies of the congregation will either have you fixed up with the man of your dreams or they will have to turn in their League of L.O.L. membership cards. Then your successful career and comfortable income will come as a surprise to a man who already knows you as a solid, responsible, compassionate person.