Ah, the Playstation generation is proving their worth.
I told my wife - the best thing to get an 18 year old for his birthday is suitcases.
Spoiled brats who have been told the world revovles around them then go out in real world and find out it doesnt so they go crawl back to the people who think it does
But they're too wimpy to declare it. Cry me a river.
Why move out when you can enjoy everything that Mom and Dad have worked for 30 years to build? Since our culture has removed the notion of work = stuff, it is no wonder that we have 18 million whiners who feel entitled to Mom and Dad's continued support.
BTW, I am 31, a married mother of three with my own home. Moved out at 18. Have not looked back, save Sunday dinners. No, I do no dump my kids off with my mom -- something else that I see my generation doing....mom means babysitter.
I left at 18 so are mine.
I do agree that housing costs are BS and a unduly harsh wake-up call for young people. The price of houses in places like Denver, North Dallas, and Austin are a crock and I will LMAO when they implode in the near future.
Sounds like the Dr in last paragraph didnt read the rest of the article...lol
my degree in anthrpologicalwomensstudiespadagonianbasketweaving (for non-math majors) is worthless!
Unemployment has been below 6% for YEARS now.
What do you want to bet this happens more with liberal parents than conservative parents.
Marge: "Homer, remember what you promised the kids?"
Homer: "Oh, yea. Kids, when you're 18, you're outta here."
(paraphased)
Not spoiled
Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a professor at the University of Maryland in College Park and author of "Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road From the Late Teens Through the Twenties," says his studies of the generation have shown that they are "not spoiled and self-indulgent.
BULL FEATHERS! Mommy and Daddy has given them everything and expected nothing in return. Now they can't deal with real life.
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I see this happening to a bunch of friends, and even my in-laws. The screw-ups come crawling back and are showered with "poor babies" and "no one understands you" and the successful children are forgotten.
My MIL has two of three adult children still living with her(in their 30's/40's!). Both are major screw-ups (one is a single mom of twins who doesn't know who the father is and one is in and out of the house of correction for DUI's and other assorted crimes).
The successful child (my DH) has been married for 23 years, holds an excellent job and raises his children right. Do you think grandma has time for her successful son or grandchildren? She's too busy making excuses and cleaning up messes, both real and emotional.
We're raising our children to understand that a HEALTHY family disintegrates naturally. Kids move out and up and parents enjoy their golden years as a married couple with occasional visits from kids and hopefully grandchildren.
When did this become so bizarre?
"where 25 percent of Americans between 18 and 34 now live with parents"
I have a hard time believing those numbers. I know plenty of people with kids that age and none of them live with their parents. My kids are 26 & 28 and they have been on their own since 18 years old.
I think rent control is part of the problem. If the local government sets a rate of $1100.00/month for a 2 bdrm apartment and nobody making more than $2100.00(with no children) can live there, what does that leave a single person making $2200.00/month? They can't qualify for an apartment at the rent control rate, much less the apartments not under rent control which will always be nicer and higher. We don't have places for young singles to live. At least not in No. Virginia.
No sympathy from me for these leeches or their enablers (parents). I left home as a 16 year old high school drop-out and have worked my everlovin' butt off since. These parents should be horsewhipped.
I think this is largely attributable to the change in college education -- both how many people get it, and what it consists of. It used to be that students were proud and grateful to be accepted at any college. Now the colleges are selling themselves like rock groups, and are grateful when students accept an offer of admission. This is largely due to the explosion of federal and state funding programs which both enable unqualified and/or uncommitted students to go to college, and removed any incentive for colleges to restrict entry to those whose parents are able and willing to pay (with the willingness part often tied to previous academic accomplishment), and to those whose accomplishments and attitude suggest that scholarships extended to them out of the college's own funds, will be more than repaid in one way or another. The modern outlook of college administrations is "we've got to sell ourselves to all these silly kids who've got all that free (to us) money attached to them, to maintain jobs for ourselves and our friends and colleagues, and fund our pet research pursuits." For-credit courses in movie-watching, full-blown majors in nonsense like "queer studies", and an absolute refusal to exercise any control whatsoever over students' lives, are the predictable result of this outlook.
At least half of the traditional age students currently in college don't belong there, and if they're learning anything at all that will increase their employability, they're learning it much more slowly and expensively than they would if they were learning it on the job. The primary purpose of college has shifted from preparing academically strong and committed young adults for specific careers, to a 4-year party-filled postponement of adult responsibilities. And most "students" end up with a pile of student loans for an education that did nothing to increase their earning power, but did raise the financial bar for their independence. Many could have supported themselves if they'd gone to work straight out of high school, but with big monthly student loans payments, and a resume and self-image that screams "over-qualified or at least thinks s/he is" for any job that they're actually qualified for, means many really can't support themselves (at least not while living in reasonably safe neighborhood, which is a line that their financially and physically secure parents usually aren't eager to have them cross).