Posted on 07/13/2005 12:16:21 AM PDT by rawhide
NEW YORK This summer, hide your bridesmaids.
So warns the promo for this weekend's new movie, "Wedding Crashers", which is about a couple of bachelors who show up at weddings uninvited to prey on lonely bridesmaids and especially desperate female guests.
The movie cashes in on two common stereotypes about weddings: that women hate attending nuptials alone, and that men, realizing how vulnerable weddings make single women feel, use the occasions to their advantage.
But how are true are these generalizations?
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And it's a world I've left, for the most part. I no longer work in cubicle land, I work from home for a very small company and have no aspirations that compel me to attend many duty events.
My husband also works for a small company, but we recieved an invitation we're sitting on for the wedding of a co-worker he barely knows... and we're trying to decide if it's rude to decline. She invited us only out of duty, so perhaps she'd be quite happy if we honor the sentiment by not actually going ;~D
Kinda reminds me of ANIMAL HOUSE. One of the stars went to a dorm. where he knew a girl had just died. He acted like he was her boyfriend coming for a date with her. He ended up in a hot steamy car, in the backseat, with a soro. sister who took pity on him.
Thank you Ruthy :~D
I wish I'd been able to provide some hot lookin male party crashers for all you gals :~D
Could be.... lots of divorcees still find themselves at the same events :~D
Every guest at a wedding COSTS. Guests who say, "No, thank you," promptly only cost the price of the invitation.
I'll bet if you decline, and then send a card with a small gift off her registration list, you will be her very favorite people!
Ahhh.....lighten up. We're just kiddin' around! Or at least "I" was! :) I have enough to keep me busy.....believe me! lol
I am so thankful that I got married way back in 1973 when all we had at the reception was cake and punch. I made my own wedding dress, my own design, and it was a long dress and long veil and long train. I used to make all my own clothes. It cost me $24 for the fabric. Can't get a yard of any good fabric that cheap anymore. I even made the headpiece. I made my going away outfit and trousseau. I made one of the bridesmaid dresses. My sister made the other two and she made my mother's dress. My mother made the beautiful lacy ruffled table covering that the cake sat on. We had a little bowl of nuts and a bowl of mints. My aunts and sister in law manned the cake table. It was in our church and the ladies there manned the kitchen. Whole wedding, big church wedding... $300. Today's dollars that would be about $3K. Weddings have gotten totally out of hand. $25K and up.
Our niece just got married in Feb. in Denton, Texas. She found a GORGEOUS long wedding dress for $99, clearance. Looked identical to one a friend wore for her wedding only hers was $5K.
The Denton wedding was at a B&B that caters to weddings. Reception was cake and delicious HUGE strawberries, coffee, beer, wine, soda. It was GREAT!~ we didn't NEED any of the nasty buffett food you usually get from caterers at weddings... tough stringy cold meat, etc. that is way over priced.
I heard that wedding receptions are now the #2 top industry in USA> behind what, they didn't say.....
These expensive weddings are such a waste of money. Do a smaller wedding, just have cake at reception at the church, and give the kids the money you save to buy a car or a house. Most weddings don't last anymore anyway.....
I recall when I was looking at wedding gowns I was asked 'how many people are invited?'
"150", I responded.
Her eyes got really big and she asked, "Really, what if they all bring someone?"
Now it was my turn to be shocked. I said, "Um, if a name is not on an invitation, then they are not invited."
That ended the conversation.
Most weddings don't last anymore anyway... I meant most MARRIAGES don't last anymore....
Haw haw - sounds like a real funny movie - without stds, unwanted pregnancies, or those pesky emotional and spiritual traumas of emptiness that in accompany sleeping around.
http://www.denton-wildwoodinn.com/
These places are VERY affordable~ and they do all the work for you!
bttt
You're right, I know, about the cost, particularly since it's an evening wedding, presumably with dinner.
But I resent that we still have to get a gift, simply because she graced us with an invitation. Phooey. Duty gifts are as dreary as duty attendance. For my wedding, it wasn't about recieving presents, I just wanted people to have a good time.
I honestly wanted to tell people not to bring a gift to my wedding. Many FReeper friends were traveling to our wedding at great expense, so I didn't want anyone feeling they were compelled to bring a present on top of that. So many people sent nice things even if they weren't coming, and I appreciate them for it.... but I didn't ~expect~ anything. I resent people who do expect something. We were marrying late, both having been on our own a long time. We didn't need to set up household or anything... We really didn't want a registry, thinking it pretentious, but even family requested one. We had no china or silver on it, only camping and horse related stuff :~D
Now, on the other hand, I was maid of honor for a prissy wedding of my oldest friend, and I had spent more on the satin parade float dress I had to wear to hers than I spent for my own wedding dress. Money I didn't have and she knew it. I didn't buy her a gift, and I am sure she noticed and resents it, but really, her wedding, situated 60 miles away at some stuffy location with hotel, had cost us enough.
I think I was kind to not make all my girlfriends to that. I wanted them to enjoy being at my wedding, not strap them into uncomfortable undergarments and a frilly dress. I had only one bridesmaid, the same friend who had made me endure hers. At least she got to pick a beach-casual sundress to wear that cost $20.
Some weddings are social events; some are family events. You are having a family event and the same rules don't necessarily apply.
You must be extremely young to be posting the sophomoric things you're posting about weddings. It would be gracious and courteous of you and your future spouse to consider the interests and personality types of your guests. Try to arrange seating plans so they REALLY enjoy their dinner partners and table conversations.
As far as everyone dancing all the time, get real. Some people just prefer to listen to the music and not get all sweaty jumping around. What about the elderly people attending your reception.
FReeper nopardons was 100% accurate. Heed that advice and you'll be happier years down the road when remembering your big day.
~ Blue Jays ~
That's a little harsh. The Black Plague wasn't as bad as Gigli.
Then don't send a gift ... that was just a suggestion, in case you *really* wanted to make her happy! The required response to an invitation is a Yes or No, in writing. That's all.
We knew whether most of our single friends had a serious enough significant other to warrant inviting them. In case we didn't, we made sure to ask before sending out the invitations. Nobody got a "Mr. X and guest" but rather a "Mr X. and Ms. Y."
Of course, several of the significant others ended up being ex-significant others in the meantime.
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