Why Women Must Change Too if we are to Rescue Marriage

The Financial Times ^ | July 5, 2005 | Richard Tomkins

[Tax-chick]

I also require that a man be a conservative ideologue.

[chris1]

PRICELESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[HitmanLV]

I hear you - I cover that requirement by adding that a prospective mate mush have a similar world view as I do. :-)

[RHINO369]

Yea that was some pitiful typing but my boss wanted me in his office so i had to split.

Yea I'm a grad of a public school. Yes I am terrible at spelling but thats a symptom of my dyslexia (might i add how ironic its so hard to spell), however thats not an excuse. I could honestly spell the same word three times in one paper. Thank god for Windows Office and its spell check or i couldn't pass a class.

However I'm a graduate of a public school who does very well in an electrical engineering program in a top 5 university for elect. engineering. So the schools must have done something right.

[Tax-chick]

So the schools must have done something right.

Why credit the schools, rather than yourself, your own intellect, and your own effort?

Good luck with E.E.; that's what my husband does (digital network design).

[RHINO369]

Does anyone else think educated females are boring? I can't stand dumb women, but most educated women have no sense of logic, and most spew liberal propaganda at me.

[highball]

I must respectfully disagree with you.

National Socialism is Fascism. Fascism is a far-right ideology, so far that it starts to meet up with the far left on the circle of political ideology.

We can pretend that National Socialism was the same as Socialism because it makes us feel farther from it, but we have to admit that some "conservatives" go too far and become Statists, even on this site.

[exnavychick]

LOL...well, (sort of) luckily for me, all my children are boys. I'm more worried about them killing themselves doing some bone-headed stunt, driving recklessly, or drinking themselves silly once they leave home. :)

What I am NOT worried about is that they will depend on some woman to cook or clean or do laundry for them. I am making sure they learn how to do for themselves. I don't know when or if they will marry, and if they do, whether or not their wives will know how to do these things. I don't think that teaching them this stuff will feminize them, either, lol. With any luck, my husband and I will provide them with an excellent idea of what a good marriage and family are, and what is necessary to achieve that. I hope they never know the pain of divorce. :(

[RHINO369]

Well actually if i went to worse school i could have gotten into the school anyway, but because i took very challenging courses it prepared me.
Eh i gotta go now. I gotta do the lighting circuits for a floor on a skyscraper for my internship and its going to take DAYS.

[highball]

Does anyone else think educated females are boring?

Not at all. Educated women are the sexiest women.

Well, the sexiest women to have a long-term relationship with. ;)

[SuziQ]

Second, if women are to share power in the world, men must share power in the home, which means that they get an equal say in important decisions about soft furnishings.

*snicker* Since SirSuziQ trusts that I will NEVER bring anything frou-frou into this house, he is content to let me choose. However I ALWAYS ask his opinion on any sort of furniture coverings since he needs to be happy with it, too. Considering we don't purchase stuff like that very often, we want to make sure we like it cause we're gonna have it a LONG time.

Right now I'm on a quest for the perfect bedding ensemble for our new Master Suite. It's tough because I don't like flowers, and most geometrics don't do anything for me. I found a nice pattern online, not overly colorful, but nice shades. Unfortunately, I can't find it locally. DRAT!

[exnavychick]

May we deduce that you're a graduate of a fine, government school, as are most Americans ... those folks who don't know what the Spanish Armada was?

LOL! You are braver than I. I thought about saying the same thing, but decided against it. I'm too tired, lol.

[HitmanLV]

To an extent. I find very educated women (grad school, law school, med school) for the same reason I find very educated men boring: they tend to be very focused on their life path and seem to think that I have a comparable level of interest in their field.

That's one reason many lawyer men and women are routinely rejected. Nobody cares about that crackerjack legal argument they concocted. When it crashes and burns, they never raise it again.

Also graduate school types tend to be fairly liberal/leftist, and it seldom stands up to even casual questioning on my part. I don't find a person who repeats bumper sticker slogans and then stares off into space when I ask a basic follow up question.

And that, invariably in my life, tends to be the kind of mentality I encounter with lawyer types and grad school types. One notable exception is doctors: they just tend to think they are god (which makes them intolerable for all sorts of different reasons). :-)

PS - Few people ever liked the smartest kid in the 6th grade. When that kid grows up, in many cases people still don't like them very much. That's to be expected and encouraged, I think.

[SuziQ]

Congrats on your anniversary. You have lasted so long precisely because of your attitudes toward your union. Sir SuziQ and I are celebrating 30 years this October!

[Tax-chick]

Have fun!

[Tax-chick]

I had a nap :-).

Statement such as ... not wanting to get married because getting drunk 5 nights a week is much better than having kids ... are indicative of both extreme youth and pop-culture brainwashing.

[justshutupandtakeit]

Thanks I was blessed for 20 years so can't complain.

[RHINO369]

I wouldn't dislike her because shes smart, because most would consider me smart too, but it just seems like many educated females are very book smart, but when it comes to other things they are lacking. I like smart women, but for some reason i get the feeling that most educated women are just very hard working, not smart. It's weird, i don't know if its the way it is or i just perceive it this way.

[Mrs. Don-o]

It's the difference between "schooling" as a tool of the state, and Education as the passion of a life.

Well said!

Well said!

And as another wise woman stated it,"It's the difference between schooling as "filling an empty bottle," and education as "lighting a fire."

[HitmanLV]

I pretty much agree.