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Parents miss Mass, kids get ax
NY Daily News ^ | 06.27.05 | NANCY DILLON

Posted on 06/27/2005 1:42:52 PM PDT by Coleus

Parents miss Mass, kids get ax

The pastor of a Staten Island Catholic church is playing holy hardball - kicking hundreds of kids out of religious ed classes because their families aren't showing up at Mass.

The Rev. Michael Cichon, pastor of St. Joseph/St. Thomas in Pleasant Plains, used each family's bar-coded donation envelope to track attendance.

He's tossed about 300 kids from classes and told them not to reapply until next April.

Without the classes, children cannot receive the sacraments, meaning some youngsters who thought they'd be making their First Communion next year will have to wait.

The suspensions, legal under church doctrine, were a shock to many parents with kids enrolled in the 1,400-child program, which caters to kids who don't attend Catholic schools.

"It's hurtful," said Joseph LoPizzo, 38, whose 6-year-old son was booted. "I've been a parishioner at that church for 23 years - longer than he's been the reverend."

LoPizzo said he paid the $150 for his son's Thursday afternoon classes last year, but his father-in-law's illness hampered the family's church attendance.

"I've just never heard of a church kicking you out," complained Lisa Nicol, 36, who got a letter saying her 7-year-old twin daughters had been barred from classes. "They should be more welcoming and sensitive."

The pastor said he suspended kids from the 2005-2006 after-school program because Mass is an "essential" component of the Catholic faith.

The affected families were attending church less than once a month, he said.

Cichon insisted that the move has nothing to do with the lack of a donation.

"There are many families who put absolutely nothing inside the envelopes they submit," he said.

Originally published on June 27, 2005



TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; US: New York
KEYWORDS: canonlaw; catholiclist; ccd; children; church; churchattendance; lapsed; mass; nyc; parents; statenisland; whiners
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To: SoothingDave
My point is, it isn't what Jesus would do.

In fact... Jesus didn't establish any religion. so, why make the fuss...

181 posted on 06/27/2005 2:59:14 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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To: redhead

The article says this program is for kids who DON'T attend Catholic schools. Sounds to me like the message to the kids is "If your parents aren't good Catholics, then we don't want you to be either". Whatever. I'm not Catholic so I can't tell them how to run their church, but most churches are eager to serve children of inactive or non-member parents.


182 posted on 06/27/2005 2:59:22 PM PDT by GovernmentShrinker
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To: It's me

see post 88.


183 posted on 06/27/2005 3:01:38 PM PDT by Luddite Patent Counsel (Theyre digging through all of your files, stealing back your best ideas.)
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To: LWalk18
Even when they become old enough to go on their own they will be less likely to attend more than occasionally.

They'll be even less likely to, if they got booted out of CCD for something beyond their control.

184 posted on 06/27/2005 3:01:49 PM PDT by GovernmentShrinker
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To: Straight Vermonter; All

Christ is present in the midst of 2 or 3 that are gathered in his name, he is present in the simple faith of a child...we celebrate the death and resurrection of Christ in the partaking of the Eucharist, but is in faith in Christ that we enjoy his presence!


185 posted on 06/27/2005 3:02:06 PM PDT by mdmathis6 (Even when a dog discovers he is barking up a wrong tree, he can still take a leak on it!)
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To: tfecw
I would rather these kids come into the faith later on in life for the real reasons.

Seems pretty unlikely for someone to be drawn at any time to a church that threw them out of CCD because their parents didn't go to church enough. And they won't even have what scraps of knowledge they might have gathered from CCD classes.

I went to Catholic school from seventh grade. In high school, some of the kids brought up with the nun in religion class parents who didn't go to church. The nun told them quite bluntly that it was none of their business what their parents did and it wasn't their place to judge their parents.

186 posted on 06/27/2005 3:03:20 PM PDT by maryz
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To: CitizenM

..."and a little child shall lead them..."


187 posted on 06/27/2005 3:03:20 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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To: wideawake
The parents need to be called out on their disregard of the Third Commandment, but at the same time the kids need to be instructed no matter how slack their folks are.

It's a tough call.

Not a tough call at all. The local church official's are using the parents poor attendance record against their children on the supposed rational of their being a 'bad example' to thier kids. And does one person's 'example' save another? not at all ... this is showing a very shallow teaching by their local church, that the sacraments they are being trained are important for their salvation are not really as important as the example of their parents ... confusing and poorly carried out message to these kids. Presents a very hollow and empty example of Christ.

188 posted on 06/27/2005 3:03:51 PM PDT by AgThorn (Bush is my president, but he needs to protect our borders. FIRST, before any talk of "Amnesty.")
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To: FoxInSocks
Technically, that just means they didn't turn in an envelope. They could have been there.

Was thinking the same thing. We attend every Sunday and put a check in the plate. I know of a lot of people who do this.

We also don't pledge. We put a tithe in each week but don't like getting the statement saying how much we have donated and how much we still owe.

189 posted on 06/27/2005 3:03:52 PM PDT by Texas Mom
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To: It's me

It's ok to disagree, we are all human. a Pastor isn't super human. He is open to mistakes. There is only one who is flawless and he whipped a few in the temple...


190 posted on 06/27/2005 3:04:38 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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To: SoothingDave
If the parents aren't serious about their faith, the children are already "lost." One hour a week of CCD can't overcome the parents' unwillingness to live their faith.

Thank God, Jesus doesn't agree with you and offers salvation to all, tax-collectors, prostitutes, and many others that would be judged as already 'lost' ... How tragic that the 'Pharisees' running this particular parish have now grouped the 'children of the not regularily attending' in the same 'lost' category.

191 posted on 06/27/2005 3:09:15 PM PDT by AgThorn (Bush is my president, but he needs to protect our borders. FIRST, before any talk of "Amnesty.")
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To: FeeinTennessee
" We don't force them to. Or kick them out if the parents don't show up for church. I don't understand the reasoning behind that."

It's pretty easy - the reasoning is to get these Catholics to become serious about their faith, otherwise, why do they bother being Catholic?

192 posted on 06/27/2005 3:09:45 PM PDT by jackibutterfly
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To: redhead

Initially I was conflicted over this story, but as I think of it, the priest did do the right thing ... how are the kids supposed to learn their faith if they go to class once a week for a few years, but never see their parents attend church? Is one hour a week too much to ask? I think the parents' motivation might be wanting to see the kid in the white dress/veil, have a big party, and then forget about the rest of it .. not unlike many of today's marriages where the only thing that counts is the wedding, reception, gown, etc ... then they're divorced in a year!


193 posted on 06/27/2005 3:11:03 PM PDT by EDINVA
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To: Texas Mom
Jesus said "Do not let your left hand know what your right hand doeth..."

Meaning it isn't anyones business how much you give. It is up to you and God. My pastor approached me and asked me if I was tithing. Mainly because I do not give in the envelopes, just cash, no checks...can't trace it to me. I asked him if he thought I was faithful to God, he said "yes", I said, "then you don't have to ask that question"....

194 posted on 06/27/2005 3:11:10 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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To: jackibutterfly

Tell me where in the Bible it says you must attend church... then I will tell you that the priest has a leg to stand on. You can have God-fearing/loving people that do not attend regulary


195 posted on 06/27/2005 3:13:18 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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To: Zavien Doombringer
"Tell me where in the Bible it says you must attend church... then I will tell you that the priest has a leg to stand on. You can have God-fearing/loving people that do not attend regulary."

Our religion (Catholic) requires that we attend Mass or suffer a mortal sin. If those "Catholics" do not believe that, then they should not be Catholic. It's as easy as that.

196 posted on 06/27/2005 3:15:45 PM PDT by jackibutterfly
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To: SoothingDave
If you have no desire to attend Mass and teach your children the faith, don't expect the Church to do it all for you.

Sounds as if there's a good chance the parents themselves were not effectively taught the faith (given that they were probably born during the worst turmoil in the church, not surprising), though they retain enough to want their children to have some. It doesn't sound like much help to deny the children any instruction (at the same time reducing their chances of making friends who do go to church, one time peer pressure might do some good).

Do you think God probably doesn't want them anyway?

197 posted on 06/27/2005 3:18:21 PM PDT by maryz
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To: jackibutterfly
Ok, then it is a doctrine that is taught outside of what The Bible teaches. Meaning it is chaff, it means nothing.

When I was Catholic...There was mass on saturdays for the lazy...It was celebrated by a different priest than on sunday mornings. Perhaps these parents were going on saturdays...

I am not making the arguement for the parents. I think it is wrong to boost kids out of a class, even if it is all the "Jesus" they get.

198 posted on 06/27/2005 3:18:48 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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To: sageb1

Like I said in my former Post, I am a Trad. We are overflowing and believe me we have all ages at our Trad Church! Old, young couples with young children and babies. Try looking at the Trad Catholic Church near you. You will probably find out ahere everybody went!!

incidently, we had a fellow in the Hospital. We told our Priest and he said he would be going to see that man as soon as possiable, I believe he said he was going to go yesterday afternoon. A lot different treatment than this poor fellow got.

www.sspx.org


199 posted on 06/27/2005 3:20:20 PM PDT by 26lemoncharlie ('Cuntas haereses tu sola interemisti in universo mundo!')
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To: maryz
Funny you should say that.. I am afraid to tell you that there is God outside the Catholic Faith....

And He does want them...

200 posted on 06/27/2005 3:20:28 PM PDT by Zavien Doombringer (Have you gotten your Viking Kittie Patch today? http://www.visualops.com/patch.html)
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