EXACTLY. When I was a young teen I was molested by an older man. I didn't tell my parents until the guy was caught molesting another young girl. If that hadn't happened I NEVER would have told my parents because I was too embarrassed.
I can see two possible reasons.
1. He was terrified of the attacker. While this is possible it is also highly unlikely. 13 year old kids are smart enough to know how to game the system. They know that all they have to do is plant an obsever to 'accidently' walk in on them and they'd have the attacker by the nuts. And they'd look totally innocent in the attacker's eyes as someone just accidently walked in.
2. The kid was seduced. (Before you flame me listen to this. I know what I'm talking about.)
A 13 year old boy has raging hormones. Especially these days. Kids are growing up much faster than they used to. (which could also negate the size factor of the attacker. I've seen some 13 yr olds that were 6' plus and over 200 lbs) These hormones are just begging for a place to be used. This makes them relatively easy to seduce if they have the right background. read on.
So the attacker starts with regular soft porn to gain the kids confidence. Then moves on to more explicit porn and finally to gay porn. A slow progression desensitizes the kid to any sense of wrongness.
Along with this is the expression of lots of affection. Encouragement, hugs etc. steadily progressing. To a kid from a troubled home, or especialy a kid without a loving father in the home this affection is like air. He needs it just to stay alive.
Once the kid is hooked on the affection, moving to sex is pretty easy. (hugs, a kiss now and then, necking, massage, groping, sex) After all, a penis doesn't care how it's made to feel good, it just knows it feels good. The rest of it can be worked into ("You know I love you and if you really loved me you'd do this for me")
This kid has been raped physically. But even worse he's been mind raped and may take years to recover if he ever does.
So don't be so quick to blame the victim but also don't be so quick to blame someone for asking how this can go on for so long. We ALL need to understand this in order to protect our kids
Fathers -- You MUST protect your sons. Boys need a father's healthy attention. You must rough and tumble with them. Hug them when they've done well. They need verbal and physical affection from you. If you do not provide this they will either grow up not knowing how men respond to each other in a healthy way OR end up as some perverts play thing because they are seeking attention. (Please note that girls need daddy's physical affection also).
Mothers -- You must let dad and son have time together to do guy stuff. Rough and tumble may mess up the house but hey, they're guys and guys wrestle. It's part of growing up healthy. If dad's not around you have to get the kid some positive male presence in his life. (Not the pro-homosexual big brothers-big sisters group). Get an uncle or someone from the church involved in his life. (Of course check them out closely and watch them like a hawk). A kid without a father is an easy mark.
All parents. There's a book out. "Seven steps to recruit proof your child". Get it and read it. It's linked on the homosexual agenda list of links.
(As you may have guessed. I've been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and took years to recover. I pray that my attacker got saved before he died. I also pray that every child molester (read homosexual if you choose) gets saved and changed or if they refuse to be changed, dies before they can molest again)
LJ, you can ping the list to this post. Although I've shared this before I think it bears a reminder.