[freedumb2003]

It is hard to say what the circumstances were.

Like I said, if the kids are young, it makes sense. But a man who has a career well underway should pay his own way for a basic ceremony and perhaps allow the in-laws to add embellishments. A man takes care of his obligations, period.

$12K is a bit of an embellishment, but if more people were able to participate than otherwise, I can see it.

But $80K? 200K?

[Miss Marple]

Our kids were just out of college. I grant you that a man in his late 30's would probably feel uncomfortable if the in-laws paid. That was not the case with us.

A wedding in the 80's or 200 grand would be far our of our budget. However, if I were Donld Trump or someone on that income level, I would probably not bat an eye.

It all depends on income level...don't judge parents paying a lot...they may have the money.