As mentioned above, the court only ended up making the final determination because MS decided to invoke the court's jurisdiction. The court was simply playing a surrogate role here.
You're being disingenuous. The court was the actor, the decision maker. It's right there in the 2nd DCA excerpt I posted.
Why dissemble, lets just debate the efficacy of probate judges having that power.
Nothing by mouth & have the police haul away anyone who attempts to give her anything by mouth...
Did the court establish her desire to have her parents be kept away from her, cept when her husband was willing to allow it? Do you think she wished for someone to haul them off & charge them with contempt of court if they got too pushy in their concern for her care? Do you think all of that is what she meant when she said she didn't want to live like that (hooked up to machines)?
When you walk into court to litigate a civil matter, you do more than invoke it's jurisdiction. You invite it to use the full force of it's power & authority. Surrogate, smurrogate, ask anyone who has gone through a divorce.