My husband and I were engaged when we found out that we would be expecting a baby. Instead of a big blow-out party, we decided to simply elope, lol. I don't think anyone in my family would have had a problem with us having the ceremony we had been planning, but I felt uncomfortable with the idea, for a number of reasons. Sure, sometimes it bothers me that I didn't have a fairytale type wedding, but six years later, I'm still married and have more children with my husband. THAT'S what really matters.
Throw a big fancy party for your 10th anniversary and let your parents foot the bill if they had planned to do so for your wedding! You could get a gorgeous ivory cocktail length dress, if you didn't want to wear a long white one!
After this amount of time, you've really got something to celebrate!!
We're thinking of throwing a big shindig this fall for our 30th, though we might wait until 2006, when the addition to our house is at least enclosed, and we'd have some room for folks! ;o)