Wouldn't want to ruin your precious figures birthing your own babies now, would you girls?
"Wouldn't want to ruin your precious figures birthing your own babies now, would you girls?"
OMGosh! I can't believe you said that. Do you have an issue with adopted children? I think it's wonderful when a healthy young woman who CAN bear children of her own chooses to adopt a child who needs a home. Yea, she could have her "own", but if it wasn't for people who were willing to adopt, what would happen to these homeless children.
They, the do-gooders, are enabling the brutal culture of the Chinese and in doing so...actually killing MORE babies....but hell they're politically correct and their every thought comes from Harvard and God
Lurking too long and drinking alone too much.
I have a friend who is a single mom of two beautiful chinese baby girls. She is barren so she chose to adopt.
Some women who are really capable of being nurturing and good educators, who are self-sufficient and have a lot to offer children...can't actually have children. Physically or for certain personal, medical reasons, some of us simply can't produce babies, which, in and of itself does not constitute the whole job of MOTHERHOOD. Some of us who are not biological mothers may still have a lot to offer young females, and not all of us are struggling to make ends meat, though most of us work hard indeed at what we do, and carry a sense of pride in that regard -- a pride and sense of accomplishment many mothers cannot offer their female offspring...because they never had it and never found a way to cultivate it. Some of us, when we are ready and able, want to offer education, travel, nuturing to younger women....to the next generation being born, whether the world is ready to feed them or not, and some of us want to help out and share our love and abilities. I am one such woman, and am in my 30s and a professor of women's history, and am an author, as well. I don't see why my own interest, love and generosity shouldn't go to a young female child who is abandoned, for cultural or socio-economic reasons. It is NOT a matter of ruining my body,but of living a long life and sharing that with a child who needs that strength. Although I do feel it BEST for children to have both a male and female parent...I wonder about all those little girls from China, Hungary and other war-torn or impoverished nations who need A MOTHER, who can be there for them, physically, mentally, and emotionally...who can offer better than what she is likely to get without someone like ME, who spent my life trying to be a role model to young women. I'm sorry some very misogynistic, adolescent and bitter, cynical comments have been made here, by some men and women, who have no real understanding of the variety of women's lives and the variety of life-choices out there, and I am disappointed by the comments from those who suffered badly from struggling single parents, who could barely manage them, as children. But realize, too, that NOT ALL single women are in that same situation as women who chose marriage and children before becoming educated or self-suffient, and who now find themselves struggling and flailing at being single parents. That has indeed gone on for generations, and that is why there are women making different choices these days...albeit not without opposition or struggle, but with some confidence. Some very educated, loving, generous and capable females, who have the money and willingness to care for another human, to make them civilized and offer them educational and other opportunities SHOULD adopt female children who have, for centuries, been victims of poverty, rape, and rampant, ruthless female infanticide in such places as China and Vietnam. My own mother had the body to produce many children, and had both a husband and a very bad marriage, which tortured me enormously, though I recovered through education and other forms of guidance. I have now a very good life, free of strife and unhappiness and struggle. Why should I not share that? Why should I not share that strength and good feeling? You need to look at things differently, if you remain so cynical about the choices women make with their bodies, energy, life, love and time. We're not all looking for an excuse for giving our lives meaning, through mere biological reproduction; some are giving meaning to those who don't even get that meaning from mothers who bothered to give birth to them, but simply cannot do the rest.