I guess I could hate the (sober) driver responsible for the death of my son because that person was responsible for my son's death and admitted it to my face.
Unfortunately, the driver was my daughter, his sister.
How much worse should I try to make her feel than she already does?
If I did make her feel worse, how much better would I feel?
When you carry that kind of hate around, it does more damage to you than to the person you hate.
Bless you. I can't imagine......
Your post is what I love about this forum; immediate perspective. Not always delivered with the mountain of grace or wisdom palpable in your written word, however.
Blessings...
And why do you assume that the drunk driver in this case, who had multiple DUI convictions, was the least bit repentant ? Sparing his feelings is not an issue.
My condolences to you and your family; you speak from the heart with a knowledge, authority and experience that few of us have and my heart goes out to you. Pardon me for saying it, but in this case, they're dealing with a repeat DUI offender who should never have been given access to drive another car; as I understand it, after multiple convictions he lived in his parents' house and was driving his parents' car. In my view, they share the guilt by not ensuring that he never got near one of their vehicles; this was not a first-timer. Moreover, this was the product of a civil suit settlement; his parents would have paid far more had they not agreed to move as a private contractual matter.