In my first marriage, I wasn't perfect. Hell, I'm not perfect now. Nobody is. Living with someone else is like living with two minds, never quite in sync.
Rationality is the key. If she's rational, you'll get along. If she's not, there's no basis for settling differences. And this doesn't mean victory. It can even mean, we agree to disagree amicably.
My first wife was as irrational a person as you'd ever meet. If we didn't have money, and money was tight then, her comeback was that she deserved to have whatever she wanted and that was that. To hell with the bills and whatever was important. The examples could be legion.
The scenario Dirtboy laid out was like a blow by blow from my first marriage. It almost brough a panic attack on. LOL, just kidding but seriously, what a waste of time.
I am married to one of the most level-headed people I've ever met. She is beautiful, extremely capable, and happy within herself.
I wish for any guy the same luck that I have experienced. It will be a blessing to them.
Don't go out looking. Be a little bit of a joiner. Meet people. Sooner or later you'll meet the right one.
My wife now spends time doing her thing, and I mine. But it's nice to have someone around for shared experiences.
Single life can been quite enjoyable. Some people perfer it, and if you do more power to you. If it gets old, here's to wishing you success in finding someone to "ENJOY" life with.
D1
D1 ~ You speak from wisdom.
I have been married to my husband for 41 years. Let me help you guys out on this "let her argue" bit. It's not quite as bad as it sounds.
There are some women who, because of inner insecurities, hold everything in and feel afraid to speak their minds. Giving them the opportunity to express themselves can increase their confidence in themselves, in the marriage, and in their husbands. And it alleviates the stress in their lives that causes bad things such as heart attacks.
Now, what you said, D1, is the key. She might be inhibited and needs to work some things out with a loving, understanding husband. However, she must be a rational human being. As you say, this is key.