Posted on 02/19/2005 10:58:11 AM PST by srm913
HUH??? Bill doesn't argue back. He takes it like a lil' bitch.
Actually, I read that one particular fight between the two resulted in broken glass and smashed cupboards in the kitchen of the Arkansas governor's mansion.
D1 ~ You speak from wisdom.
I have been married to my husband for 41 years. Let me help you guys out on this "let her argue" bit. It's not quite as bad as it sounds.
There are some women who, because of inner insecurities, hold everything in and feel afraid to speak their minds. Giving them the opportunity to express themselves can increase their confidence in themselves, in the marriage, and in their husbands. And it alleviates the stress in their lives that causes bad things such as heart attacks.
Now, what you said, D1, is the key. She might be inhibited and needs to work some things out with a loving, understanding husband. However, she must be a rational human being. As you say, this is key.
That's key for both genders. As well as an understanding of the difference between what women see as rational and men see as rational in the relationship.
Oh yeah ... that Venus/Mars thing ;)
Otherwise referred to as "trench warfare."
THAT is fun-ny...
And I should have added the punch line. That she suggested the outing, but on the way back to the car in the rain she bitched at you for suggesting going to the comedy club.
Well, in my experience I wouldn't exactly refer to it as trench warfare. But there truly are differences in perspective in what is important, what is not between men and women.
For instance, I don't think men have an affinity for talking things out. My husband credits Tim the Toolman for giving him great wisdom (lol).
My husband and I are such good friends that there are few "wars" or turf battles. Marriage is an evolution, and all 41 years have been a wonderful adventure.
Well, in my experience I wouldn't exactly refer to it as trench warfare. But there truly are differences in perspective in what is important, what is not between men and women.
For instance, I don't think men have an affinity for talking things out. My husband credits Tim the Toolman for giving him great wisdom (lol).
My husband and I are such good friends that there are few "wars" or turf battles. Marriage is an evolution, and all 41 years have been a wonderful adventure.
It's great that you have that kind of relationship.
At this point, is it the voice OR the sight of her that makes you cringe the most? ;-)
one word response:
no.
The front line of a free man.
Her: "Honey do these pants/dress make me look fat?"
Him: "Yes they do. I love you and will not lie. Now let me help you find something that makes you look beautiful."
Tell the truth but OFFER to help her find the solution. (she may not accept, but be prepared to follow through if she does.)
Face the facts the ladies KNOW they make them look fat and they are just fishing for a lie to enable their delusion they are not fat.
(flame suit on.)
Funny and cute.
Thanks.
You marriage sounds like it has a good helping of common sense.
common sense is not allowed in the PC universe.
I would never advocate either partner remain silent, grinding away. Discussions are healthy. Arguements are seldom so. Accepting differences is a good thing at times.
Yes, right again D1.
You really nailed it. PC does not make a happy marriage.
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