Posted on 02/18/2005 7:11:48 AM PST by srm913
Why can't my moms marry? His parents have been together for 27 years, yet many still question their right to tie the knot, says Matthew Eaton-Kent
It was the day before Father's Day and my Grade 1 class was just putting the finishing touches on the wooden desk organizers we had made. My class had spent weeks sanding down the blocks of wood, adding magnets for paper clips, holders for pens and a spot for an eraser. Today was the day we were going to engrave the word "Dad" into the top of the organizers.
I had worked really hard on my present but I had a problem. I was not going to give my organizer to my dad because I didn't have one. I was going to give my present to one of my two moms.
I wasn't sure what she would think if I brought it home and it had the word dad on it. So I sat there quietly as all the other children took turns hammering the metal stamps, which read "dad," into the wood. I was getting nervous as my turn with the engraving tool grew closer. Finally, I got up and approached the teacher's desk.
She asked me what was wrong. I reluctantly told her that I didn't have a dad and that I was making this gift for my mother. She told me I had nothing to worry about and handed me the stamps with the "m" and "o" for mom.
That's how it has always been in my family. One of my mother's celebrates Mother's Day while the other celebrates Father's Day. Sure, it was a bit awkward at school but it didn't make my family any less of a family. In fact we kids thought it was a great way to recognize both of our moms.
However, there is something that makes my family different from a lot of families. The difference is that my parents have never been married.
The reason my parents have never been married is not because they don't want to but because, by law, they couldn't.
Their relationship was not recognized because marriage was defined as between a man and a woman. It has been very hurtful to my parents, the gay community and believers in human rights that there has been so much opposition to same-sex marriage. It's been hurtful to my sister and me, too. Very hurtful!
Personally I am perplexed by the extreme opposition to changing the definition of marriage so it can include unions between two people, any two people. As someone born into a generation of political correctness and void of any blatant racism, sexism or xenophobia, it is hard to deal with the hateful nature of the opponents of same-sex marriage.
I am not sure why they don't view the love of my parents as equal to the love between two people of the opposite sex. If they question the commitment, they should note the 27 years my parents have spent together and the way they have cherished my sister and me.
I find a lot of the hate and opposition comes from many of the institutions that promote peace, love and understanding. Some churches have fought the right of same-sex couples to marry.
I wish they would look back in history to a time when religious freedom was jeopardized. People who were historically persecuted are all too willing to be prejudiced, all in the name of God.
I am a teenager growing up in an era of equality, an era where blacks are equal to whites, where a man is equal to a woman. This era should include same-sex marriage and my parents.
All of us are made in the image of God, are we not?
Matthew Eaton-Kent, 17, is a Grade 11 honours student and avid athlete. He lives with his two moms, 14-year-old sister, two dogs and one cat in Halton Hills, just outside Toronto.
I know this has already been addressed by now but...
The statement above from the article is an absolute lie. His 'moms' can marry any man of their choosing who will have them, just like any other woman in the country can.
Secondly, he doesn't have two mom's. He has one mother and one unrelated person who shares the house with them. When he can show me that he has the dna of both his 'moms' I'll agree that he has two moms
How can anyone be a junior honors student and still be so stupid about basic genetics and biology?
trying to make a joke. using a turkey baster is funny, raising a step kid with your live butch dike isn't.
"live-in" not live - and I was refering to the people in the story with "your" not you gidget. i just butchered that post. =) lol
Got this in an email today---
"The Republicans should back off and let men marry men; women marry women, and totally legalize abortion. In three generations, there will be NO DEMOCRATS."
Ah, I see. Sorry, mate. My bad :)
S'alright! :)
I recently Shared a room with this guy for a week and I am pleased to say that he is..... the worlds most pomous *sshole. He is so sheltered form what the world is truly like that he sees only a single view, his and both his mothers. He saw only a single way to deal with any issue and I find it hillarious that an heir to the Eatons fortune is so closed minded
There is more than one story with this mold, andecdotal theme.
We should expect a plethora of such stories.
While this is a toronto story, remember this is only 1/2 of the story!
Even IF these homosexuals marry the non-mother will still NOT BE LEGALLY part of the child's life because, at least in the USA, 27 states prohibit or restrict second parent (just a clean way of saying homosexual sex partner) adoptions. If they are allowed to marry, then the laws preventing recreational sex partner adoptions can be attacked.
IN ADDITION, the ABA model code envisions sex partner adoption DESPITE biological mother or father objections.
This story is pure bunk, this child DOES have a father. He may be unknow but he is out there somewhere. That OTHER woman with his mother is just the woman who plays with her genitals for a satisfaction of fetish.
I feel sorry for this kid.
good point.
It does sound like the wood project is a fact. Since when are students still allowed to work with sharp objects in the PC schools?
oops typo fact should be "fake"
His "parents" can't marry because he doesn't have parents, he's just being raised like a pet by a couple of lesbians.
TODAY'S QUEER DAY NEWS
July 25, 2003
Teen glad moms can marry
In April, Matthew Eaton-Kent stood before a Canadian House of Commons committee considering the issue of same-sex marriage and answered questions about his life as the 15-year-old son of a lesbian couple. Three months later, the media hoopla surrounding Ontario and B.C. provincial court rulings on same-sex marriage has mostly focused on happy couples racing to the altar, but less has been said about the kids. Eaton-Kent says he's pleased his mothers can now wed if they choose, but he doesn't think it will affect his life much, or those of other kids in his position. "It only affects them to see their parents happy or not," says Eaton-Kent.
© Copyright 2003 Queer Day
The interesting thing about such a statement - especially our willingness to accept such a statement - is that those who are mentally ill are evaluating their mental state with a flawed machine. It amounts to a ship's navigator looking at the lamp at the top of the mast instead of the stars and saying, "Appears we're right on course."
Eaton-Kent may be fine, but he is not in a position to evaluate it. As a child of an alcoholic, I thought I was fine, I just wanted my mom to stop drinking.
Shalom.
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