Posted on 02/16/2005 6:38:05 PM PST by wagglebee
If you watch a lot of cable television, you've probably seen the ads, especially late at night or early in the morning. The "Girls Gone Wild" videos promise to show you coeds behaving badly on the beach during Spring Break or getting down and dirty at Mardi Gras. The formula is simple: find a group of nubile young things drunk out of their heads and induce them to pull up their T-shirts or pull down their shorts and expose themselves to anyone willing to fork over $19.95 for the privilege. The most recent incarnation features gangster rapper Snoop Dogg hawking fresh, young flesh.
Call me old-fashioned, but I just can't imagine what these girls were thinking when they agreed to "show off their assets," as one knock-off video boasts. These young women aren't pros -- they are not part of the pornographic underworld -- but ordinary teens and twenty-somethings who one day will be wives and mothers. One young girl, who was 17 at the time she allowed herself to be photographed topless, has already sued the producers of "The Guy Game," a video game featuring females in various stages of undress. Her suit claims she did not give a "valid or enforceable consent or release" for photos to be used by the video game makers. "Plaintiff is still a teenager and wishes to attend college, develop her career and be active in her community and church." Good luck.
What is most shocking about this phenomenon is that we're not all that shocked by it. Modesty used to be considered a natural female attribute. No more. Just take a look around next time you're at the mall. With warm weather on the way, belly buttons will be popping out everywhere, and thighs will be very much on display, even in church. Back in the day, a pair of tight jeans was enough to earn a girl a bad reputation. Now slutty has gone Main Street.
A recent report by the Independent Women's Forum (IWF) -- "Sex (Ms.) Education: What Young Women Need to Know (But Won't Hear in Women's Studies) About Sex, Love, and Marriage" -- suggests that feminism is at least partly to blame. Female sexual license has become a central tenet in modern feminism, as the IWF documents in its study of feminist academic literature. Popular feminist textbooks, notes the study's author Carrie Lukas, "celebrate feminism's role in changing social mores by increasing the recognition of women's sexuality, bolstering its acceptance, and encouraging greater access to birth control." Early feminists burned their bras as a symbol of their liberation. Could baring their breasts be the newest symbolic act of young feminists?
As Lukas demonstrates, however, libertine behavior exacts a heavier toll on females than males. Women are more susceptible to sexually transmitted diseases than men, for example. A woman is eight times more likely than a man to contract HIV from a single sexual encounter and four times more likely to get gonorrhea when exposed. Women are also more likely to suffer serious damage, such as sterility or cervical cancer, from STDs. And the risks are not just physical.
Many studies show that promiscuous behavior entails greater psychological costs for even the most "liberated" women. One anthropologist cited by Lukas hypothesizes that the uncomfortable feelings many women experience after casual sexual encounters may be a warning system for women not to engage in behavior that would have been "maladaptive in earlier evolutionary eras. Casual sex with men unwilling to invest in them or their offspring is a prime instigator of such negative feelings."
The girls baring all in these low-budget videos may think that guys like this kind of behavior. But as Steven E. Rhoads, author of "Taking Sex Differences Seriously" notes, "Men often prize promiscuous sex in the short term, but they want faithful wives. . . . If a man finds a woman hard to get, he will sense that she is more likely to be faithful after marriage." Plenty of men and boys will buy the "Girls Gone Wild" videos, but they're not likely to invite the amateur strippers home to meet Mom.
Sounds like a real catch to me.
*** Nope. That's what I thought when I was much younger around twenty five or so. I'm older and wiser. Girls will do really dumb things to get attention, well not all but a lot.
Understood, but could you post some pics of you dressing that way???
OK OK OK don't cyber kill me! But it was SOOO there! ;)
Maybe nice guys are scared of a woman with brains?
Maybe some of the jerks are really nice guys under the surface but you gotta put the work in to get it out of them
Cy seems like a very sweet lady who has lots of brains so im sure she'll find a nice guy
I think most guys are so twisted and turned they dont know what women want anymore cause they get so many different messages
Me?I like to think im a nice guy..I open the doors for ladies and I gave up my seat to an elderly lady on the bus the other day but yet some girls say they dont like that stuff so what do men do then?
LOL! I'll see what I can dig up :o)
We came home from New Orleans with probably 25 or 30 pounds of beads from the parades and from Bourbon Street and neither one of us flashed our boobs - Well, I did but nobody threw me any beads for it.
I wanted a coconut from the Zulus but didn't get one.
I have great faith, dearheart! ;)
You have never been to NYC... a hardworking conservative guy who smokes a joint and has a few beers after work is the least of your worries.. what do you think cyborg's big complaint is?!?
LOL!
(also consider that all of my friends in NYC are either rock-band guys or some kind of artists...)
I saw the most tasteless small of the back tattoo ever a couple months ago. It was a cartoon steam locomotive with the words "choo choo" under it.
women have become men.
I suspect her standards may exceed what's been presented so far. I would advise highlighting other selling points other than the weed and booze
There is nothing wrong with a woman wearing short skirts. I dated a woman for a while, who at 55, had great looking legs and would occasionally wear some very short skirts; and she has very high morals.
Women dressed like sluts always get a lot of attention from certain men. But you probably wouldn't want to go out with these men who are attracted to sluttily dressed women.
Yeah you're right. I know from personal experience, but it's frustrating explaining this to teenage girls.
I hear you bro, I am among the last of the chivalrous nice guy gentlemanly type fellows, myself. However as I said, I have the added difficulty of being a tattooed rock band musician guy! That attracts the girls I *don't* want to meet, and turns off a fair number of the girls I *do* want to meet. Oh well, I made those choices.
There is a girl I'm seeing right now. I'm friends with her older brother, he and I are from the same mold (only he has no tattoos and is into programming and robotics like I'm into music and guitars). His sister is SUPER, SUPER smart, and I am so attracted to her it's silly. I love her brain, seriously, as dumb as that sounds. HAHA! Her brain is sexy! (I'm dieing of laughter, over here!)
Good thing she is also a music nerd and is turned on by the semi "bad-boy" exterior but she digs me 'cause as I said, I'm one of the last of the "nice guys".
Who would want to date a girl that didn't appreciate holding the door for a lady, or giving up your seat on the bus for one?
Not me, that's for sure!
Ah, the old "scanner is broken" excuse. Likely story. :-)
Ping.
Keep it up skaterboy! Lots of women LOVE that. Lots of "liberated" women love it. Really. And if they don't, well, they're weird. My boyfriend STILL opens doors for me, warms up the car, carries the groceries, shovels the walk, and holds my hand crossing the street. I never ask, he just does it. How lucky am I?!
arasina wrote:
So do a little of both: wear a 'conservative' outfit with a garter belt and stockings.
--> Thanks! making me go cukoooo cukooo! my head is spinin LOL/sarc
The guy wasn't interested in you no matter how you dressed. If he were interested in you he would have approached you if you were dressed conservatively. However, what you did by dressing slutty to get his attention is tell him you were desperate and made yourself less appealing. If a guy is not interested in you, but he is horny, dressing slutty will get his attention, but never his respect. Men make judgment calls based on what woman look like. We may alter our judgment somewhat once we get to know a person, but a slut is always a slut, just to differing degrees.
I have a 17-year-old daughter who is extremely modest and dresses very conservatively. She has no problems getting a boys attention, but she picks and chooses and will not dress down for a boy. I am sorry you feel you have to.
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