Chinese Parents Giving Away Unwanted Daughters (SICKENING!)

Straits Times ^ | February 13, 2005 | Agence France-Presse

[hosepipe]

[ Actually, I taught English in China for a year, and my experience has proven otherwise. There are HUGE numbers of abortions in China, and the worst part is that they are simply a given over there, as well as in the rest of the world. America is the only country I have seen in which people care about the abortion debate. Everywhere else, the populace threw up their hands long ago. ]

I see.. so then I'm correct.?.

[Irene Adler]

I would LOVE to have one of these precious angels, but I am 54 and Mr. Adler is 57. I doubt we would qualify, and I am not so sure Mr. Adler would like to start over again with a little one.

[Irene Adler]

Some time ago, I saw footage of an orphanage in China filled with little girls and a few handicapped boys. The parents had given them all aways so that they would be free to "try again". It was horrific. The conditions were filthy. The older children abused the younger ones who couldn't get away from their tormentors who didn't know any better. I have never forgotten it.

[pennyfarmer]

My Mom.

[Tuscaloosa Goldfinch]

It depends on whether the child is special needs or not. I have an online friend who has adopted a second child from China because the child had a deformity that was easily repaired here.

[Ethrane]

One of my business partners and his wife just adopted a Chinese baby.

The process took years, and cost thousands....

When it was time to go and get the child, they had to stay in China for over 2 weeks to conclude the formalities...oh, and they were told to bring $5,000 in CASH that they would likely need to "complete the process" while in country.

The child is beautiful and they love her dearly...but you have to wonder about the whole process.

[writmeister]

I know a couple who adopted a Chinese girl last year. Yes, the red tape is horrendous, criminal background check, financial statements, social worker visits. etc.

Actually, an adoption from China is easier than a domestic adoption. Our entire adoption process from first paperwork to CIS (formerly INS) to receiving our daughter was 18 months. Our greatest delay was getting CIS approval, which took four months. I can guarantee you that the process for a domestic adoption takes longer than 18 months.

The paperwork is not that complicated because both the Chinese government and the CIS tell you exactly what is needed.

[stlnative]

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[Lizavetta]

The rules for international adoption are very exclusionary. You may not have natural children of your own and you must be under 35.

SOME countries are exclusionary. Others are not and permit other siblings, older parents, and single parents. It all depends.

[writmeister]

The rules for international adoption are very exclusionary. You may not have natural children of your own and you must be under 35.

That is not correct. China requires that both parents be over thirty years of age and does not have a specific maximum age. It prefers couples ages 35-45. When we traveled to China most of our group was in their late thirties or early forties (including my wife and I)

The limit on children is four children under eighteen per household. Several families in our travel group had other children.

My understanding regarding domestic adoptions is that it is nearly impossible to adopt a baby when the couple are both over thirty-five.

[Brian328i]

Some time ago, I saw footage of an orphanage in China filled with little girls and a few handicapped boys.

It's really sad, I saw a deal on the History channel about Siberia and how they have some of the worst AIDS in the world due to the huge prostitution industry. They talked about how so many of the children would turn to prostitution just for a living since they had nothing else to support themselves. They showed an orphanage that was ran by a Catholic church that had loads of children and the one scene that got stuck in my mind was of 2 little girls there that were asked why they were there and one of them said her mother commited suicide (IIRC) and her dad was just an alcoholic and didn't want nothing to do with her.

[Cicero]

Our neighbors went to China and adopted a little girl. She's very cute, and seemingly very bright.

As others have said, it beats killing them. Indeed, it wouldn't be necessary to go to China if more mothers here offered their babies for adoption instead of killing them.

[Gal.5:1]

Thank God these parents try to give them away- I was reading for years how they were killing them and throwing them in the street. Many Americans are adopting these little girls.

[gtk]

I am an adoptive father of a child from China. The information on the requirements are wrong. The Chinese government allows foreigners to adopt within the laws that they apply to their own citizens. More information is at: http://www.china-ccaa.org/

The paperwork is extensive, but little more than a domestic adoption. The cost is not insignificant, but about the cost of the hospital delivery of our second child. It takes some time, about a year in the process and a week to ten days in China. It is also relatively fraud and bribe free, which is different from both domestic and some foreign adoptions.

[papertyger]

My Mom.

Nope ;o) You dodged that bullet. If there's one thing I'm not, it's somebodies mom.

[greatsquire]

HOW can we save this situation? Seriously. Before we bite the hand that feeds you, pray that the economic status of China for the good persons, PLEASE will improve.

I am very afraid of hostility and reaction rather than love and solution. Everyone, be part of the solution, not the problem about these billion persons-- all of whom should be seeking advancement as Americans are. Criminal gratifying penalties will be the next level.

[papertyger]

I guess it hasn't occured to you that American parents don't raise Chinese kids.

[Askel5]

Americans don't trade with mortal enemies who slaughter the innocent, torture priests and trade in human flesh.

I mean, that's the reason purchase of Cuban cigars is illegal, yes?

[Daaave]

My dad's boss and his wife, went to China, a couple years ago. They sent me the emails with the latest news and pictures of the little girl they were adopting, which I showed to my parents.

[maine-iac7]

-old one-child policy is causing baby-selling.

this is the culprit.

the state allows only one child - mothers, who already have one child, have been force to abort. If they don't have a son, they have no "old age pensions" - (means of support)

Many baby girls, in the past, have simply been left outside to die.

I wouldn't want to contemplate what would happen if we lived under a government that "allowed" only one child.

Of course, our libs pushed, for years, for no more that two - I notice they've finally dropped that mantra