Man allegedly locked girl in kennel

KSTP.com ^ | 2-9-05 | kstp news

[Rakkasan1]

St. Paul - A man who allegedly put a 13-year-old girl in a dog kennel for days at a time, hit her, read her diary, and strip searched her, was charged this week with unreasonable restraint of a child.

Eric Bare, 42, of St. Paul, admitted to child protection workers that he did lock the teenager in the kennel on two different occasions, once for three consecutive days, and once for seven consecutive days. Bare said that he "fixed up the kennel nice" and that it was "a suitable temporary living arrangement."

Bare is not the girl's father, but she called him dad, according to charges.

[DannyTN]

cORRECTION

"Anything less than a failure to love is sin."

[hardworking]

Excuse me, but the MOTHER was an abuser too! She 'took food to the girl in the kennel' - HELLO! The mother should be charged too.

[DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet]

Read the article. She was.

[DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet]

She was charged also.

[GeronL]

read her diary?? Why is that even on the list?

[international american]

I don't think any woman should stop dating just because she has children. As a man, I would not "shack up" with any woman, married, unmarried, or with children. If the bond is that strong, a committment is necessary, both for the single mother, and the children.

[trussell]

I can agree with that. I will not move a man into my home unless and until he has made a committment to me and my children.

My intent is to stay single until my children are grown, but I don't think it is right for others to expect the single parents to stay that way.

[international american]

Agreed on all counts. G'night Truss.

[trussell]

Good night IA

[Siamese Princess]

Mothers who take in a live-in boyfriend increase their kids' risk of being abused by something like 50 times.

A woman has to be a blithering idiot to shack up with her kids still in the house.

You're right. Unfortunately, this practice is common and widely-acceptly. A couple of generations ago, a mother with minor children shacking up with a man seriously faced losing custody of her children.

[CyberAnt]

I agree .. it's child abuse, child neglect, child endangerment, etc.

[cherry]

no shack up studs and no shack up honey's.........goes both ways.....

[codyjacksmom]

I can't agree with what you've said...it seems unreasonable. If a man is willing (the woman too) to go through a proper courtship, and they feel that God has intended for them to be together, do you suggest they go against what they feel is Gods will for their lives? I do not approve of living together, especially when kids are involved...but I do believe that if God brings someone into our lives that He wants us to be with forever, then we should follow His direction for that...not what some people might or might not approve of.

[maggief]

http://www.startribune.com/stories/462/5231694.html

A St. Paul mother and her live-in boyfriend are accused of locking the woman's 11-year-old daughter in a chain-link dog kennel in a warehouse basement, leaving her cold and, one night, naked.

Deborah L. Cameron and Eric Bare appeared in Ramsey County District Court on Wednesday, each charged with two counts of unreasonable restraint of a child, a gross misdemeanor. ...

...Bare and Cameron were released from jail Wednesday night after Bare posted $5,000 bail and Cameron posted $2,000 bail. Conditions for their release included having no contact with the girl and maintaining regular contact with pretrial release officials. County Attorney Susan Gaertner said she has never seen a case like this in her 20 years as a prosecutor. She said the couple's actions are deserving of more serious charges, but prosecutors could not find a state felony law that fit the conduct.

[bad company]

What type of people with children have LIVE IN bOyfriends?

My wife for one. For three months before our wedding we lived together to save money to pay for the wedding.

There's a lot more here than just the moral considerations of shacking up. Being a single parent is hard. Harder than you (hopefully) will ever know. some people just can't handle it and they make poor decisions, like this woman.

The other consideration is that kids need a father figure. If their real dad doesn't give a damn and there are no uncles or grandpa around, someone needs to be there to tell the girls they're pretty and teach the boys how to spit.

[maggief]

http://www.twincities.com/mld/twincities/news/local/10860073.htm

...The girl is in protective custody. Child Protection Services investigators had two previous contacts with the girl. Investigators said they had no evidence to corroborate the girl's allegations until now.

Calling the case abhorrent, Ramsey County Attorney Susan Gaertner said her staff scoured the penal code before filing charges.

"Twenty years as a prosecutor and I have not seen anything like this," Gaertner said. "There are a number of experienced prosecutors in my office, myself included, who are shocked and saddened by these allegations. … We looked very hard at any potential felony that could be charged. We looked really carefully at the sexual assault statute to see if anything applied. Nothing did."

She said her office did not know about the girl's previous attempts to get help.

"The allegations were never brought to our office," Gaertner said. "I don't believe the police were contacted." ...

...One neighbor, who refused to identify herself, said she heard the adults berate the girl, calling her a freak. The neighbor said the girl dressed in dark, Gothic clothing.

[LauraleeBraswell]

""For three months before our wedding we lived together to save money to pay for the wedding.""

Hey, AS long as the DATE was set. That's different. I'm not sure if your wife had children already, but you were there for three months, the date was set, the ring was bought, DIFFERENT from 7 years.

""There's a lot more here than just the moral considerations of shacking up.""

This woman had a daughter. This woman also had the type of man who was willing to live with her and her child for 7 years and was not willing to marry her. Where was was the ring? Oh, wait there wasn't one!

If she wants to devote 7 years of her life to a man who WON'T marry her FINE,(why buy the cow lala) she can waste her time. But to involve a child.

""Being a single parent is hard. Harder than you (hopefully) will ever know. """

It is hard. You know what else is harder? Being a 13 year old girl who is locked in a DOG KENNEL by her mother's LIVE-In-Boyfriend.

""some people just can't handle it and they make poor decisions, like this woman.""

Like this guy? Was putting a 13 year old in a dog Kennel Bad judgment? I'm sure this wasn't the first incident of WARNING. There is no excuse for letting someone do that to your child.

""The other consideration is that kids need a father figure.""
A live in boyfriend is not a good father figure. For one he won't commit- not a good example. And in this case, he was a real dirtbag.

If this woman wanted a boyfriend, that's fine. Don't get your kids involved until it gets serious.


""If their real dad doesn't give a damn and there are no uncles or grandpa around, someone needs to be there to tell the girls they're pretty and teach the boys how to spit.""

That was the cutest thing I ever read. But still, Live in boyfriends are Bad examples. And uncle or a grandpa is fine. And if a woman wants to get remarried, she shouldn't involve her children in her relationship until it gets to the point where marriage is a serious option. And then she needs to see how they interact.

[LauraleeBraswell]

""So a woman who has been divorced through no fault of her own, is expected to spend the rest of her life alone Just because she has children?""

No, I didn't say that.

If she wants to get Remarried, good for her. But a live in Boyfriend- as a general rule-they are men who are unable to commit or they just don't love you.

If you are an adult and you want to waste time on a livin boyfriend- As an adult it is your decision. Just don't subject your children to a dysfunctional relationship.

Theres also a new modern way of thinking "We have to see if we love eachother" WRONG- bad idea. If you love eachother there should be little doubt. A functional relationship is when you both love each other and are married.

That's what I meant. And I bet you agree.

[Rudder]

Your notion works good if there are kids involved. But, sadly today, the institution of marriage is a bad deal for men.

[LauraleeBraswell]

But, sadly today, the institution of marriage is a bad deal for men.


No it isn't. I've noticed the brainwashing that it's bad for women too since Men oppress you.

Marriage is a good idea and a good deal. Married people are happier.